Sometimes, I hear people, both the young and old, blaming others for things happening in their lives. “If only my dad had wealth, I wouldn’t be here right now”, “If my mom had done this or that, life would have been easier for me”.
It’s not just parents. People blame friends, acquaintances and sometimes even the society for the things that happen to them. And this behavior stems from having a sense of entitlement which makes them believe people owe them support. It makes them believe people around them must attend to their needs even no matter what.
First of all, you need to understand that nobody owes you anything. Your survival is solely in your hands. Your parents played their parts by bringing you into this world. Let’s be realistic. They sheltered and clothed you, provided your basic needs, and even supported your basic education. Yet, you blame every little misfortune that happens to you on that one thing your parents didn’t do for you.
Others lost their parents at a younger age but are still sailing through life with content. Your friend whom you are always blaming for not having your back probably has been going through something you don’t know. But you’re blinded by your sense of entitlement.
Nobody is obligated to help you. Everyone is trying their best to survive. If your loved one offers a helping hand through a storm, appreciate it. If they are not capable of helping, move on and find other means to sail on your own.
Don’t stand in the storm blaming every other person for what’s happening to you because by the time the storm is over, you probably would have already drowned. I know. I know. This probably sounds like a rant, but then, don’t look at it from that angle. Read it from a point of reflection. Okay??. Thank you.
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