There was a time I joined a walk-a-thon in Lekki, speaking about gender equity in health. We had a lot of placards showing Stride for her right, My health matters too... and many more.
This is to show how much we are ready to fight for our right and equity in family as a daughter, a sister, and a wife.
At times we ask the questions of: why can a man cheat and a woman not being able to cheat in a marriage? Why are some job roles assigned to men alone and not giving to women? Why should there be a "No Girl Child education?", Why should presidency of a nation be about male gender alone and not inclusive of women? And most times we get the response that we can't compare ourselves as female gender to the male gender.
Most times we are remembered about our seven (7) bones which is not up to the nine (9) bones of the male gender which limits us to having capacity on some duties or works of which we often go against and not agreeing to.
But! What happens when the situation turns around from the receiving end to be a giving end?
In a family of siblings of both male and female, the male is believed to be the father of the house catering more or contributing more when it has to with finances because he's a man.
Husbands are tagged as the provider of the home, who is supposed to go out on a daily basis to provide what the family would eat and other welfare aspects.
The man's money is termed as "our money" which every member of the family can spend and be happy on while the wife's money is tagged as "my money" which is meant for her alone to spend and save.
I've seen most of we ladies arguing on the basis of not marrying a man who isn't rich to cater for our extravagant needs and our family's but one question I do ask is how about you having that capacity as well to cater for your family and their needs? Even if it is his compulsory responsibility to cater for yours, why must it be the sole responsibility of the husband for your family.
This isn't about women supporting women issue but the fact about the society we live in.
It's understandable that culture has its own role to play as well in this situation but as long as we seek gender equity then there should be no exceptions anywhere.
Aside financial aspect, you would see some men saying it's the responsibility of a wife to leave her work-life and be a full housewife to look after him and the children because she's a woman. What if she doesn't like to be one? Have you both talked about it first?
I've seen husbands who had tagged all daily chores of the house to being the wife's duty as a woman. What happens to you assisting her as her other half, her helper and her Friend?
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The belief of the society filled with hypocrisy but with an outerior motive of fighting for equity needs to be addressed so that everyone can treat one another how they should. There should be fairness and that's why it's called EQUITY.
So while we await that happening, we all should work on ensuring that as both male and female, we support ourselves financially, morally, physically in our marriages, as siblings in the family so it can extend to the society at large.
For every society you see today starts from what a family is
I'll be dropping my 🖊️ here on the Hive Learners prompt on Gender Equity.
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