PAIN! Physical pain of a wound or injuries are way better and instant to cure, treat and heal than the so-called emotional pain which I refer to THE UNSEEN.
Battling with THE UNSEEN but felt emotions is like fighting a shadow and when you're not determined and wise enough to deal with your emotional pains and trauma, one tends to not only hurting the people around them alone but even end up hurting themselves more if they are really still having an iota of conscience within them to realize how bad they've just treated someone because of what they once passed through.
Many attimes, these passing of pain becomes a life cycle that rotates and becomes like a popular adage of "what goes around comes around" when care is not taken.
For instance, someone who contacted HIV virus through an unprotected sexual intercourse with someone they loved and trusted either knowingly or unknowingly. Then he/she decides to ensure sleeping around with the opposite gender unprotected so as to ensure that they get gifted with the virus just like he/she has been freely given the virus to live with.
The pain doesn't get to stop when you don't get it controlled. It extends just like an engine oil spilled on the floor and it leaves that stain on the surface. The ugly part is, we are to be blamed for every pain we cause others due to our past experienced pain. We would shoulder that guilt as long as we are responsible for incurring that pain on another person except our conscience isn't working anymore.
There was a time I shared in my posts here about a betrayal from a close friend when I was young which made me close my heart to having a close friendship except with my twin sister. Though I have friends and I have childhood friends but the lessons I've learned made me know better on not expecting too much from them and also knowing that they are humans and would always be humans.
The previous betrayal taught me, not to pass on the pain of betrayal but to gradually heal from it and that was when I could associate and make friends again even if it's not close bestie kind of friendship.
Most of these cases of passing on pain to others mostly do occur with people who experienced heartbreak of love from a romantic relationship. You would see someone who gave his/her all to the opposite gender but ended up getting betrayed saying; - no other girl or guy can get my full honesty ever again - I can never assist a guy/girl all in the name of a promising future and building an empire together - I can never have a joint account with anyone in my life
And so many more due to the pain of betrayal that they faced with the person they associated with or the pain of losing a loved one which has made us isolate ourselves from people around us.
Most of us have reacted, acted and judged the present people in our lives with our past and now, we've probably lost them or are at the edge of losing them and we are either filled with regrets if we had realized yet or still blindfolded by the pain from our past.
If pain should really be passed on then God might have destroyed the whole world because even after all he's done to create a beautiful world for us, we ended up making it a wicked world of killing and hurting ourselves brutally but instead he still chooses to give us another chance of love every day by day, hoping that we would change.
In summary, let's learn to heal from our pain instead of passing them on to hurt others.
You being hurt by others is their faults but we hurting others because we were previously hurt same way remains our faults and we will shoulder the responsibility of the guilt and punishment.
I HOPE THATS NOT SCARY
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