Good day fellow ladies if hive. I'm so glad to be here again and I want to share my entry on spouses support which is one of this week's prompt. Yes, statistics may affirms that women are mostly saddled with the responsibility of caring for the children, doing all house chores and expected to contribute to household finances. It's however not like that in every home.
Though the society has helped the men to gratify leaving all home care for women, they did not help to emphasize that men should should carry all financial responsibilities. So, anytime the society sees that a woman is not contributing financially in a home, they start asking "what does she bring to the table?" Meaning women are expected to support their husbands financially at home, but they never thought husbands should do the same in supporting their wives in caring for their children and other home care. Yeah, that is the myth. It is however bias.
Thanks to God, spouses are learning now, writing their own family narrative themselves. Families are now setting their standards and not societal norms. In some homes now, husbands and wives now support each other.
In my home, no one is permanently designated to a role. My husband support me in various aspects. We do our laundry together, cook together, even if he's not doing anything in the kitchen, he gists with me and makes the cooking fun and easier. I also do not leave our financial responsibility to him alone. I support him so well. Aside, supporting him financially, I also helped with some work which society expects men to do. I do clear the bush in our surroundings whenever I have the strength. I maintain our garden and the likes. This has really helped us a lot to build that trust and bond that family truly needs.
The reasons why some families have problems are not farfetched. Women will feel cheated when you don't support them while they work themselves out at home, but you expect them to slash financial responsibilities with you. It could generate crisis at home.
Hence, it is hightime we started being emotionally intelligent. Home care should not be left for women alone, the same way men don't want financially responsibility to only be on their head. It's not about comparison or competition, it's about love. When there's love, you won't even count some things.
I do wonder how some men feel comfortable seeing their wives working their selves out at home, sweating while they eat popcorn and watch the Tv. It's not nice. There's need for empathy. Women are really trying, they take care of babies, cook, do house chores and still do other things even when they are tired to please their husbands. This is new era. Husband and wife are one, until we start seeing ourselves as such. Of course, nobody will watch him/herself worn out. Your spouse is you.
Thanks for reading. The picture is AI generated.