I often dream of the times I'm going to spend together with the family I'm going to have in the near future. With my spouse and our kids.
I have often pictured the young woman whose going to stand as my better half, going with me through the good and bad times, helping each other achieve our dreams and purposes, raising our kids the right way. It's a time of my life I eagerly look forward to.
When it comes to marital companionship, two things matter the most for me: Number one, love, and number two compatibility.
When I talk about love, I don't mean the shaky feelings of infatuation that a lot of young people are brimming with these days, but the real, sacrificial type of love. The one that accepts a person even with their imperfections. The kind that stands by their soulmate whether it's sunny or cloudy. The one that takes inconveniences for the wellbeing of their partners. The one that is not motivated just by good looks and physical charm or wealth.
Whoever she's going to be I am prepared to take her into my home. I'm prepared to accept or her person, to live with her despite her imperfections. And I'm determined to go out of my way to make her have the best in life. And I expect her to reciprocate all these.
The other thing I dream about in my relationship with my future spouse is compatibility. I expect we both will have qualities that complement each other. Simply put, I expect her to show strength where I would show weakness and I expect myself to show strength where she would be naturally weak. That way we will both be watching each other's backs.
I often conversed with my friends about qualities they dream about in a potential partner. Some of them set very high standards.
I told one of my friends once:
“I'm not expecting my future spouse to be perfect. So far she ticks certain important boxes, I will take her in, her imperfections regardless.”
My friend chimed in an opinion, something between agreeing with me and not.
“So far we will stand by each other's side, and help each other navigate the troubled waters of life, achieve our dreams and build a wonderful home together, I'm okay.” I added.
I expect to raise wonderful kids with my future spouse. I often dream of starting very early to lay the foundations for a prosperous life for our kids. Inculcating the right manners and behaviors in them. Helping them develop intellectually, emotionally, psychologically and healthwise. I dream of planting in them from a young age, the right mindset that will help them win in the battles of life. I plan to make them imbibe all necessary skills and pieces of knowledge they will need to succeed in life. And I plan to prepare them to become wonderful parents and partners when they eventually get their own families. And of course I plan to achieve all this with my future spouse by my side, lending her invaluable help.
If things go according to plan this I hope to achieve. But I leave room for contingencies, anything can happen against what we plan. I know will marry an extraordinary young woman and we will raise an extraordinary family together. And this I dream about often.
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