Love is free not bondage...QC #157.

Pleasant greetings to you all and Happy New month. ************ A romantic  relationship  is a beautiful venture entered into willingly by two individuals based on certain commitments and with love as its foundation. But sadly, over the years, there has been a huge decline and deviation from what romantic relationships ought to be. Betrayals, Cheating and every kind of abuse you can think of, is now a noem on some romantic relationships. The one for discourse is *ownership in relationships*.  Agreeing to be in a romantic relationship with a partner does not and will never be tantamount to ownership. It has never been and will never be. You don't own people, rather you own properties and assets.  I have heard lovers use the modifier *”my”* when referring to their partners. For instance, a man in a romantic relationship calling his partner *”My woman”* and vice versa but is that really the case. Addressing  a love partner as “mine” doesn't literally mean that such a partner has become a property. The truth of the matter that I have come to believe is a major factor for such an idea  is that such ideologies stem from a root of “insecurity and emotional immaturity”.  Some people are fortunate to have lasting love relationships while some others are not so lucky and they experience a  break up. But many times, when a person  tries to cut off from a toxic relationship, the other partner is unwilling, claiming that he or she belongs to him or her. This then leans to a cycle of pain. I doubt that I would want to be in a relationship with a person who claims to own me or who thinks of me as his possession. That would be me putting myself willingly in bondage and such a relationship cannot thrive successfully. A man who is clingy, a control freak, monitors my every move and does not allow me to associate freely with others can never be in a relationship with me because these are clear signs of insecurity. I knew a woman a long time ago who was dating a guy in my church. Immediately the guy proposed marriage, he told her to quit her good well paying  job and just be a simple woman at home or else he won't go through with the wedding. He claimed that he didn't want her to mingle with other men in her office and get tempted. Thank God for counseling which saved her from such bondage. Man is a free being and romantic relationships are entered into freely. Love doesn't keep a person in bondage whatsoever neither does love claim ownership of a free being. ************ Thank you all for reading. Image used is mine, edited with nano banana. *************