Growing up was traumatic for me , I left my parents house to live with an aunty at the age of six . At a very young age I was forced to take care and protect myself as none was looking out for me .I grew up in a hostile family,as the only young girl living with them ,I had to put up with the boys and young men who continuously tried to harass me.This quest for survival continued into my adult hood. I literally grew up being selfish. But then as I grew older into adulthood I started to change,I wanted to care and be cared for,yearning for attention .at the age of 22 I was still depending on people for happiness ,I yearned for love in relationships,I did everything they wanted so as to be loved ,but in the end it was all heartbreak.Then one day I opened up to my mom after twenty years of battling this life of self hate , inferiority complex and shame . She gave me a simple advice that made me make a decision.she said " You are beautiful ,you are special my daughter ,I know life wasn't easy on our family but I hope you live for yourself first so the things you love and it's going to be better." There and then I decided to be selfish.i put myself first in everything now . though it be challenging specially now that am married and with kids .I still adjust to make sure everyone is happy,but I don't jeopardize my own happiness.
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