I came across a quote;
“Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough.” Josh Billings
There’s something magical about the word “No.” It’s only two letters long, yet it carries the weight of freedom, boundaries, and peace of mind. Funny thing is, as powerful as it is, it often feels like the hardest word to say.
How many times have you found yourself saying “yes” when deep down you wanted to say “no”? Maybe you agreed to a favor when you were already exhausted, joined an outing you had no interest in, or took on responsibilities that weren’t even yours.
I Precious, I’ve been there, smiling on the outside while silently wishing I had chosen differently.
Damn….. how exhausting this can be. But here’s the truth, I’ve discovered that every unnecessary “yes” is actually a “no” to myself, my rest, my energy, my priorities.
I remember one particular day, a friend asked me to help out with something at the very last minute. Normally, I would have said yes, even though I was already drained and behind on my own work and time. The guilt crept in immediately, if I don’t do this, won’t I look selfish? But that day, something in me shifted. I politely said, “I can’t take this on right now.” For a moment, silence filled the air, and I braced myself for disappointment or irritation. Instead, my friend simply said, “Alright, no worries.” And just like that, the world didn’t end. What did happen was that I felt lighter, freer, and strangely proud of myself. That one small “no” gave me back my evening, my energy, and my peace.
That’s when it clicked for me, saying no is not rejection, it’s redirection. It’s choosing where my time, focus, and love truly belong. And honestly? It felt like uncluttering my soul. Suddenly, I had more space for things that mattered, more energy for my goals, more rest for my body, more peace in my spirit.
Of course, learning to say no hasn’t been about being harsh, it’s been about being honest. A simple “I can’t commit to this right now” is enough, and I’ve learned I don’t need to over explain. Instead of feeling guilty, I thank myself for choosing peace.
And when that guilt tries to creep in, I remind myself that every no is actually a yes to my health, my happiness, and my priorities. I started practicing with small no’s until it became easier to say them in bigger situations, and each time I did, my confidence grew.
I won’t lie, it still feels awkward sometimes. There are moments I slip into old people's pleasing habits. But each time I stand firm, I feel stronger. These days, I don’t attend every gathering just because I’m invited.
I don’t say yes to every request that tugs at me. And I definitely don’t apologize for choosing myself. Because I’ve learned that my peace is priceless and protecting it is an act of love, both to myself and to others.
At the end of the day, the power of saying “no” isn’t about shutting people out. It’s about letting yourself in. It’s realizing that your energy is not unlimited, and your time is not up for grabs.
So, the next time you’re torn between a guilty yes and a peaceful no, pause and remember this: saying “no” doesn’t make you unkind, it makes you wise. And sometimes, the most loving thing you can do for yourself and those around you is to simply, confidently, say no.
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Shalom