There are many things that indeed must travel the oblivion direction. I just got dissatisfied with what I heard someone say this morning. What are norms? Mostly abnormals that have been deemed normal. Many things need to be traced to how exactly it happens because cover ups or ‘oppression tactics’ has been inculcated in the process.
In my research a picked up a phrase that is worth looking twice; ‘norms shape what is considered acceptable’. You will have to look at the fact that is just a consideration. So it means if I can afford to throw a worth of N2 million it means the least that others should spend on their own parties should not be less than N2 million.
Does that make any sense at all? Ok, I just used my influence to put the entire community in chaos. There are many things that are totally of non-importance but the elders are holding in great esteem.
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What will you have to say about a scenario where a deceased body stayed for more that a decade without being buried courtesy to norms. So what were the norms involved? There has to be a burial celebration program where a list of what and what to give the elders is given. People must gather around and eat that day before approving a burial.
Does that look awkward to you? It is as inhuman as you can imagine. Assumed matures people preferring the table of gluttony over mourning over a lost life. The family involved had little to nothing, the economy in the process wa getting tougher and tougher and the chief's men were not ready to lift up any finger to consider that the body must be put to ground.
I mean, how did this really come about? Burial setting is noe becoming a big financial burden and there is no one willing to lift off the load. In those ancient times, out forefathers joined mostly in this practices because they had Enough and to spare.
The farmlands were there to plant and harvest, so throwing a party was not ‘financial’ but rather ‘economical’ due to the abundance of food supply.
Adding to that, those who came to celebrate with the deceased family brought the needed food stuff too. Since it was more of a community practice, it was easy to host everyone. Their hearts were united beyond just food, it was a means of showing love and providing comfort to the deceased family. It was very affordable.
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So how many people show up in a burial ground nowadays for mourning purposes; I am not sure it is up to 10%; the remaining 90% or more are out there to eat and drink to stupor. Nobody cares if someone died even at a tender age death, their wailing is ALL a fake practice, without putting food and drinks on the table, their heart becomes bitter.
Should this be stopped or better put, shouldn't this be stopped? It was something I just discussed with an elderly person in our environment and yes, he was not in support of how this practice has evolved into oppression but he said it seems we can do nothing. I did kick against it anyway telling him that something indeed can be done. At least, I have first countered the impossible mindset and also raised him hopes.
I have heard of such true stories were uncles and elders ganged up to sell all valuable plots of lands just to bury a deceased living the deceased children to start life from square one. I mean, why leave the living to suffer just to feed your appetite in a day. How much can you really consume and how long will it remain in your belly.
To conclude, let me add, there must be a massive sensitization program to curb this current situation. Death is and should not become a financial burden. This practice needs to be burned up, it is something the government will have to look into and pass a constitutional law to liberate the upcoming generation from this cultural oppression.
This has led to poverty, stress, depression and I can also add, some diabolical acts in the process. Many norms are veils that needs to be lifted off.
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