Being a father of two kids, have experienced how difficult to bring a child to the universe. I had only the empathy for my wife but the real pain she had gone through! Starting from the first day when came to know that we are going to be parents, her painful journey started.
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Those who are already parent, well aware about the difficulties during pregnancy period. Here I am going to mention few of those. But the real difficulties only a mother knows.
---Morning sickness ---Vomiting ---Changes of hair and skin ---Bladder and bowel problems ---Dealing with lassitude ---Indigestion ---Headache ---Leg cramps ---Swelling of ankles and feet
Passing through all the painful journey of 10 months when the most expected date arrives that is another dreadful day for a mother! I had an opportunity to stay beside my wife for few moments during the delivery of my first daughter. With horrendous pain her face became pale. As the doctors were trying to get the normal delivery, she had to tolerate the pain for few hours. As I was not authorized to stay there, had to come out before the birth of my daughter. But from outside could feel the pain of my wife. This may be our story but I believe common for all the women.
What is next?
Every mother starts another punitive journey after giving birth of a child. First 6 months hardy any mother can sleep properly (breast feeding, take care of cloths to protect from cold, controlling room temp, etc). Yes, I am saying it from my practical experience.
Every so often I came to know my childhood stories from my grandmother. She used to tell that my mother did not sleep whole night when I got sick. My mother is suffering from permanent headache due to sleepless night after night. Again, this is not my mother story only! This is the story of all mothers.
When the children are grown up, many of us think the responsibility of mother has been reduced. But in practical it is reverse. Not only a mother has to manage the children but the other family members as well.
I am a father and managed to reach the age of 39. Still, with any of my difficulties, my mother becomes anxious. She always tries to protect me the way a hen protects its baby chickens from hawks.
After doing all the hard work and sacrificing happiness, are mothers getting proper reward (though mothers never want reward) from their offspring? Many cases the answer is ' YES' and some cases the answer is 'NO'.
I had an opportunity to visit few old homes. You will not be able to hold your tears after seeing the pain of the parents. This pain is not for food or belongings; the pain is for LOVE from their beloved ones.
Finally, where the answer is 'NO' for the mother, let's make it 'YES'. Don't forget, you will become old one day and same treatment is waiting for you. Always remember, time never forgets to take the revenge.
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