Why do some of us want to be a people pleaser so bad? The truth is there is no reason to be a people pleaser because when you try to please everyone it will be at the detriment of your own happiness. I am not saying you should make people happy but you should not make it at the expense of your own happiness.
Trying to please everyone all the time can make you stressed, worried, and lose who you are. It is good to make others happy, but your own feelings and needs matter just as much. Another annoying thing is that people know when you try to please them and was they sense that you like to please others they use that as a bait to make you do things for them. Trying to always please others is very exhausting. When you always want people’s approval can make you feel like you are not good enough. You might do things you do not even want to do or give up what you want just to keep others happy. This can make you feel sad, angry and frustrated. Instead of feeling happy, you might feel empty. It is very okay to say “ No” so you can focus on what is much more important to you.
When you as a person is always trying to please others, it can stop you from having real friendships. If you always put others first, people might take advantage of you like i mentioned earlier. These friendships might not be real because they will be based on you doing things for them, not on respect. But, when you are being yourself and saying no sometimes, you can have better friendships with people who like you for who you are.
Another important aspect to consider is personal growth. When you always seek to please others, you may miss out on opportunities for discovering yourself and personal development. Trying new things, taking risks, and making choices based on your own preferences can lead to a more fulfilling life. Embracing your individuality allows you to explore your passions and interests, helping you grow into the person you want to be. Have this on your mind that it is perfectly fine to prioritize your own goals and dreams over what others expect from you especially people who do not genuinely care about you.
Another thing you have to know is that, you can’t make everyone happy. People have different ideas and want different things. No matter what you do, someone won't be happy. This can be freeing. Instead of trying to please everyone, focus on being yourself. This can help you like yourself more and feel confident, without worrying about what others think.
It is very important to be kind to yourself, stop trying to please everyone. Be nice to yourself, like you would be to a friend. Know that it is okay to make mistakes, and you do not have to be perfect to be liked or loved. If you are kind to yourself, you can definitely handle the pressure of what others expect.
In conclusion, there is no reason to please everyone. It is very important to be happy, sane and healthy. If you know how trying to please others affects you, you will stop being a people pleaser. Make real friendships, grow as a person, accept that you cannot please everyone, and be kind to yourself. Put yourself first.