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While growing, we were taught in school that marriage is the coming together of a man and a woman either in holy matrimony or customary laws to become husband and wife. We were also taught that some forms of marriage like the traditional marriage and the Islamic marriage allows for a man to take more than one wife
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I remember all of us laughing or smiling in class those years whenever our social studies teacher mentioned a form of marriage called polyandry and explained this as a form of marriage that allows a woman to be married to more than one man at the same time. Though this does not happen in our part of Africa but I am sure it happens in other parts because if not it will not be included in our scheme.
God in his mercy also wants us to be faithful to our partner or partners as the case may be . I believe that is why the form of marriage called holy matrimony is common among the Christians. The form of marriage allows a man to take only one wife, does not give room for divorce but allows separation when it becomes life threatening.
With all the above listed forms of marriage available, why? Please tell me why a woman in her right sense will choose to be a side hen. I chose to use side hen because hen are the ones with the children you know right?. If you are the side chic, I understand that you are probably trying to make ends meet, catching cruise with him or probably checking to make sure you can be with him.
A man says to you that he wants you to be the woman in the shadow while he has another family we all know and are aware of then you and your children will just be at one corner not to be seen associating with the man that was supposed to be your husband and father of your children in public or by anyone.
I refuse to be a side chic or a side hen when I can be the female hawk that sees and controls all the affairs of my husband's house. By now, you did probably be wondering what I am talking about right? Sorry for the long story, here is the gist. Sometimes last month a guy in his late thirties died on my street one cold Friday morning leaving his young and beautiful five with five handsome boys to raise.
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The children's age should be between eleven (the oldest) and two months old (the youngest). As expected of our tradition, he died at his prime so was buried immediately and his wife went straight into mourning (widowhood). Then a few days ago, when the young widow was about wrapping up the first phase of her mourning period, a woman came to met her at home saying I am your husband's second wife and I have three children for him.
The young widow did not know how best to react to the news so she sent for her mother who lives a few blocks away. On getting there, her mother scattered everywhere with noise and it became a community matter. After a long day of shouting the community advised they go for a DNA test and they agreed. Imagine that. Just imagine Truman that the unpleasant noise will cause legitimate and illegitimate children, imagine the stigma, imagine the problem that would have been avoided if only the second woman refused to be the woman in the shadow.
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All through the argument, the young widow was just shouting iro n,i iro ni ( it a lie, it a lie) my husband has never slept out for one day since twelve years of our marriage, he doesn't eat out, he tells me all his moves and all that. The other woman was also busy trying to explain her way through but no one was ready to give her a listening hear because it's a problem that would have been avoided. Anyways we await the results of the DNA test sponsored by the community.
Thank you for taking your time to read through, Yours truly @elizy, a teacher, mother and passionate writer
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