Hive-reachout weekly prompt 59 >>> Learning by Experience // ( My personal experienced about death pain as a child )

 When I was a child, I stayed with one of my mother's sister who loves me and take care of me like her son. She didn't have any child since she got married and her husband died from a long illness. So my mother asked me to stay with her and I accepted. I went and stayed with her for long period of time, through my secondary school life of (6) six years I stayed at her house. She paid my school fees and everything that concerns me throughout my secondary school. When I graduated from secondary school, she felt ill for few months and died. Then I was so close and attached to her like my biological mother. I remembered then I was young of age ,about 13 years old.  But I still remembered everything that happened. She felt sick and they took her to hospital for weeks and months. I used to go to the hospital to visits her with other aunties time to time everytime I close from school and on weekends. She told her other friends that every weekend they should bring me along each time they're coming to see her in the hospital and they accepted.  So, they do carried me along with them to the hospital almost every weekend, like Saturday in the morning we will go to the hospital and I will sit close to her and be talking with her. She will tell me to be strong and be a good boy, not to worry about her health much because she will be fine and get back on her feet and come back home and take care of me and on Sunday after church service they will also take me to her place at the hospital. The day she died her friends didn't told me .  It was on Tuesday evening I came back home from football field that's our school games day, and I saw so many people sitting outside in our house and some other older women were crying. I was small then I knew something bad happened that made such people to be crying and so many people came to our house that day. Later on I saw my biological mother who gave birth to me inside the house and she came and took me on her arms and went out of the house.  She asked me if am hungry and I said yes mummy but she said I will not eat till I have taken my bathe cause I was dirty because I just came back from game and as a child I was dirty. After taking my bathe my biological mother gave me food and white I was eating the food I asked her mummy what happened that makes so many people came to our house and other women crying? Is it my second mother that died because she has been sick for months now.  My mother said yes my son, my second mother died and I will never see her face again forever but she will always been remembered for everything she has done for me and I will always be thinking about her in my heart. My biological mother used to call her sister my second mother. They loves each other a lot and I called both of them mummy. Whenever both of them are together and I want to differentiate which one of them I was talking to, I will said first or second mummy. That's how I grew up calling my biological mother first mummy while my mother's sister that I stayed with for six years second mummy.  When I heard my second mother is died and I will never see her face again is when I felt the pain of losing someone in life. I never knew death is painful these much, though then as a child I have not lost someone close to me so I don't know the pain of losing a family member, a friend or a relative. I cried out my heart out so loud and my first mother took me in her arms and was crying too. So many people thought I was her only biological child because of how she took care of me and how she loves me with everything she has.  After the burial and everything, my first mother took me home and I was staying in our house living with them. It has not been easy even though seeing my biological mother I do cried at my private places or in my room knowing my second mother is dead and gone forever. While growing up, I thought all relatives are nice people but later on I knew not all relatives are good like my mother's sister. I saw how other relatives especially from my father's side used to behave in our house each time they came around for social gatherings or something about family meetings. Because of how they talk and behave with my mother I hàted them and that I don't want to associate myself with them. My mother have only three siblings , one sister and two men. My mother two brothers got married and they're staying in Kaduna state very far from my mother with their family . Only my mother's sister who was late that got married within the same community with my mother but different locations. She used to visit my mother and they have a strong bold and love for each other so much as blood sisters. I have seen their relationship so at first I concluded all relatives behaves like that untill I started seeing my father's relatives behaving differently with my mother everytime they comes to our house .  Losing someone you really love is very painful. This experience is an unforgettable experience in my life as a child till today. It is from the time I lost my mother's sister, who I used to called my second mother I knew how painful death it and to lose someone very dear to you. Nobody taught me how painful death could be untill I experienced it myself. I stayed with my biological mother when I was a child and after my primary school I left and stay with her sister for about six years of my secondary school days. It shows I got more experience and have grown more matured while I was staying with my mother's sister than the way I was with my biological mother at an early stage of my life. So, as I was growing up now, I noticed not all relatives are good people. Some relatives might have money or even resources but they will not help you with anything at all except themselves and their children.  Therefore, I never had any reasonable regards to other relatives apart from just greetings and showing respect to them each time they came to our house to see my father over their family issue. Since my mother's sister who is my second mother passed away I never see any good and caring relatives in my life anymore. My mother have five children and I was the last born. At times they will ask us to visit our father's relatives to stay over for a weekend or during holidays I don't used to go anywhere. But my other siblings used to go but I refused to go. My father taught maybe because I am the last born am used to staying close to my mother that's why I don't want to leave her side and stay somewhere for days without seeing her. But I have stayed with my mother's sister for about six years even though my biological mother used to visit me while I was staying with her sister time to time and at time we used to visit my mother and greet them then go back to your house.  I have learned through life experienced that not all relatives are caring and loving. I have seen them and have experienced it, only my mother's sister who was my second mother was good and loving to me that loves me and took me of me like her biological son. I don't feel free everything other relatives visited us and I will avóid eyes contacting with them. Indeed experience is the best teacher. Some people have good relatives either from the father's side or mother's side that help and support them but mine is different.  My second mother was the only relative I knew I had then and that loves me truly from her heart. It was later on I was told when my mother gave birth to me, my mother's sister told her from the beginning that if I grow up she will take me to stay with her and her children together. And she full field her promised even though she couldn't bare a child but she took me to her house and gave me everything I needed as a child especially my secondary school education.  You will not know how painful and hurtful is it when you have relatives from the father's side or mother's side that are capable of changing your life, your career and even destiny but they couldn't do anything to support you even if you go them and channel your problems to them they will said ok they will look into it and they never looked into anything at all. But those ones that are willing and able to help and support me are death, life has taken them away from me especially my second mother who was a destiny helper to me. It's actually indeed a life experience and unforgettable experience I will never forget.