Not Too Much, Not Too Little.

There’s something about the word “demure” that feels so special. I can’t really explain it fully, but every time I hear the word, a certain picture comes to mind. It’s one of those words I first got to know online, and ever since then, I love how it's associated it with modesty. To me, demure paints the image of someone who is very conscious of their dressing and grooming, but not in a flashy or loud way. It’s someone who knows how to carry themselves with grace and respect, especially when they’re with other people. And that, in my eyes, is at the heart of modesty, it’s not just the looks, it’s the way you hold yourself too.  But if we’re being honest, the world is fast losing touch with what it means to be modest, especially when it comes to dressing. These days, as long as the clothes fit and you like them, that’s all that seems to matter. No one cares if it’s inappropriate, exposing, or even gives off a lack of good character. It’s all disguised under confidence, self-expression, and other nice-sounding phrases people use to fine-tune what, in reality, feels like reckless grooming. On the other hand, some people misunderstand modesty as being outdated, from floor-length skirts, oversized jackets, and an overall dull appearance. But that’s not really what modesty is either. For me, I'd like to think modesty as "knowing to what extent you should do something". It’s not about covering up completely, and it’s not about exposing everything either. It’s about balance. And this definition doesn’t just stop at dressing. It cuts across the way we talk, the way we act, and the way we carry ourselves in different situations. To what extent should you speak? To what extent should you laugh or express yourself? To what extent should you show off what you have? A modest person, to me, is someone who knows where to draw the line, who knows when to stop. Whenever I go out for occasions, I feel this quiet sense of satisfaction when I see people who are dressed so appropriately that they fit the event perfectly. No oxygen-restricting tight dresses, no overdone accessories, no conflicting colors fighting for attention. Their outfits, their shoes, their bags, their perfumes , all of it is put together in such a way that you can tell they gave thought to it. And the best part is, they never come across as old-fashioned. Instead, they look confident, stylish, and most importantly, modest.  It’s not just about how they look though; it’s also in how they carry themselves. They don’t draw unnecessary attention to themselves, they don’t act in loud or rash ways, and they respect the people around them. They simply exist with a kind of grace that’s hard to miss. And honestly, I find myself drawn to those kinds of people. They make modesty look beautiful and effortless, and I often try to live that way too. Recently, I’ve been to quite a few big gatherings, and on two different occasions, strangers walked up to me and told me how much they appreciated my sense of style. They said they liked the fact that I don’t “do too much” when it comes to dressing. Hearing that made me so proud of myself. It felt heartwarming because, in a world where most people just want to overdo, someone could still notice and appreciate modesty. That’s why I refuse to fall for the idea that you can be extravagant in appearance and still be modest in personality. For me, modesty is a complete package. It’s not either/or. The way you present yourself and the way you carry yourself should align with your modest personality.. I believe modesty shines through when you know how to strike that balance, looking good, feeling confident, but never losing the grace and respect that comes with knowing when to stop.