Of what value is friendship In a world filled with abundance of cruelty? where mankind strive to achieve the best we could at the cost of another man's life, where the thought of kindness and forgiveness feels irritative among the so called humans created by the creator. We all shared a bond at the beginning, when we had nothing but our humanity as our guide and most primary value. It makes you wonder, when it went wrong? Who do I call a brother or a friend? he who put me in shackles, butchered my flesh like an animal, sold me out to the vipers like a slave. He who comforted me with songs of hope and happily ever after with gentle spat on my back, his smiles melting down my walls and making me wanna live again, but then it all came crashing down the moment I outlived my usefulness, the truth came gushing out like mountain smoke. I have wandered around different corners of the earth, with each turn I have witnessed different types of humans, the experience hardened my heart, for a moment I gave up on humans because I thought all hope was lost. The act of wickedness of man kind, grew stronger by the day like burning flames of a volcanic ash In hurry to rob the earth of everything dear. Humans are classified as social animals, among other living beings on earth, it is natural thing for humans to communicate with each other in order to formulate connection among each other. In the process, relationships are formed either friendship or romantic relationship.
Despite the necessity of socialisation in the lives of humans, it has never been my strong hold. I form different kind of relationship depending on the situation I'm in and once that is over, I move on to the next stage without forming any tangible attachment. It is not as if I don't care about the feelings of others or I'm not capable of showing affection, it is just that making friends is easier for me compared to keeping them. As time goes by I realise I have a distinctive personality compared to others, instead of creating a circle of friends, I prefer to just be on my own and do things my own way but for someone who enjoys his own company my inability to feign ignorance to those in need and also go extra miles to assist others whenever it is required, goes contrary to my introverted personality. So instead of just keeping friends I try as much as possible to surround myself with like minded individuals, as long as you are the free minded type, selfless, absent of religious & gender bias and with a working brain, obviously you are my kind of person. I mean, for someone with a distinctive personality such as mine, it would be very chaotic for me to roam with others with entirely different perspective about life, most especially humanity.
It is not as if I don't tolerate people whose ideas and opinions are different from mine but it depends on the degree of the difference. I'm the kind of person that tries to understand people no matter how difficult it seems because I'm more interested in the reason behind how people come about some specific ideas than just judging their opinion in a first glance. So I put myself in their shoes and keep moving back and forth in it, trying to find a common ground where our opinion could align because sadly, no one is an island of knowledge. What if the truth I'm too occupied to see, is what the person is pointing out? So being friends with people with different opinion to mine is never a bad idea but the moment I discover consistently that a person's ideas and opinions is from hideous origins, I pull back instantly. I'm a person with lot of principles and it is what dictates my every action, it is the core of my existence and I would hate it if I allowed myself to be corrupted by some ideals or beliefs from someone I consider a friend, just because I'm being considerate of their opinion. It took me really long to build the person I'm today and it is an eternal journey of self discovery, so yeah if I find myself in close proximity with someone whose ideals might cause harm to mine, I will definitely detach myself from such person or persons without a second thought.
This write-up was inspired by weekly featured content titled Friendships in hive learners community.
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