We humans experience all kind of emotions, among it is pain. The ability of every individual to handle pain differs but regardless of the high pain tolerance of any individual, it doesn't make it hurt any less. it is the kind of emotional feeling that is capable of shaping the mentality and perspective of any individual, due to the traumatic experience that comes with it. How humans tends to deal and express pain also differs, while some might try to work the problem or erase whatever is causing them pain, other might feel the need to take it out on others. It is what we call transfer of aggression. The need to take it out on others to make ourself feel better can be intentional or not. Humans are embodiment of all kinds of elements and while we might find it easy to control most of our physical features, emotions is not a physical organ but it manifest through our physical composition. It controls our mind in ways that we might not be aware of, which is one of ways people take it out on others without knowing.
The degree of pain experienced tends to determine the level of damage. If a human got hurt as a result of trying to the right thing like being kind and generous towards others and as a result of this, he/she got victimised as a result of trying to be a righteous person. The first thing that comes to the person's mind will, "oh! this happened to me because I'm trying to be good, maybe if I try to do the opposite, I might not have experienced such a thing". This vermin thought creeps in anytime we experience anything unpleasant. Probably the first time a person experience pain in this manner, the person is able to shake it off but as time goes on, if the pain becomes consistent, such individual might began to adjust, shifting towards doing what is opposite of being good. You see, the thing about pain is that there is no expert in it, everytime it occurs it hurts like it is the first time and frankly in life, there is no shortage of painful experience. That is why most people with a unique mindset say things like, "No one is born bad, it is situation that makes bad people". Which means someone that treats us cruelly was not born bad and at some point such a person used to be good but someone or something has transformed them into the cruel person we now see. But no one really cares about if the person used to be good or not, what everyone cares about is the current nature of the person.
So when this person treats another cruelly and the cruelty inflicted upon another person also transforms them and they also began to treat others the exact same way they have been treated, so who should be blamed, Is it the transformed individual or whatever or whoever has transformed them to a cruel being? Naturally the society only blames a cruel person without paying attention to what or who transformed them because we are all responsible for our own actions. Everyone must be held accountable for what we have done because it is our duty to manage our own emotions. So you can't go around hurting people and blame it on the fact that you have been hurt, it might sound true but if we all transfer the blame of our bad actions to another person or object, then being held accountable for our actions wouldn't work. The most tragic thing is that, pain has transformed some people into the monster they used to detest, no matter how hard they try, they are not capable of going back to who they used to be because evil is addictive and sadly, it is the first nature of most humans. By holding people accountable seems like the only way to put an end to this circle of pain but it doesn't seem to be making any difference. The world becomes more cruel every single day and this cruelty has become an addiction laying waste to anything that was once good. Until we humans find a way to let go of our pain without allowing the pain transform us into hateful people and learn to forgive genuinely without trying to pass on the hurtful experience, only then we will be able to cut this rising spate of pain being inflicted. Handle your pain, don't pass it on because then it becomes contagious.
This write-up was inspired by weekly featured content titled Circle of pain in hive learners community.
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