One of the the most constant thing in a human life is growth, it is a phase of life with no definite time limitations, it only ends when we stop breathing. Which means every point of our life is subjected to growth, a person might not be growing in ways that can be seen but even at the point we feel we are not growing - we are still growing. As unshakable as growth might seem, it does have a specific characteristics that falls between what is considered positive and negative, it is always a matter of humans perspective. When we grow, it becomes necessary for us to leave somethings behind e.g old habits or old items but the things we have to leave behind is never limited to things only, it also includes humans, people we just outgrew. The bitter truth is, this aspect of life is mostly misunderstood by those left behind or forsaken due to growth. It does feel unpleasant to be forgotten or neglected by someone that used to be our ride or die kind of person but when we sit ourselves down and make use of brains as we should, absence of sentiments and unnecessary emotional outburst, we would realise that, what we were so angry about is just a natural phenomenon.
I mean at every point of our lives we move through different stages and at every point we leave to those stages behind and move to another level. At every phase there are special relationships we have built but the moment we are leaving that phase behind, what happens to the people that we used to roam with? If both parties can't find a way to make the relationship accommodate the new change or find a way to make sure the friendship remains relevant, over time both parties will drift apart. Though one side might seem like the one that initiated the falling apart of the relationship but it is bound to happen at some point. The moment a person moves towards a different phase of life, we become overwhelmed with new forms of challenges, we meet new people and form new friendships. So naturally our new reality will definitely replace our old one which includes the friends and relationships we once had. I have had to learn about the strings attached to the effects of growth the hard way, through years of pains and betrayals. It took me some time but at a point I became aware of the impediment of being human, we are creatures with limitless shortcomings. We are like a living chaos and every moment we work on ourselves to keep this chaos that exist within us under control, while we do that we become better or worst version of ourselves .
Over the years I have had to let go of some friendships, even the ones that meant the world to me but then, humans emotions is one of the most subjective to the effect of time. Some relationships I tried to hold onto as long as I could but what I learnt in the process was that, the longer I held onto these relationships, the more pain it caused. God knows I have had to endure some unnecessary awkward moments just because I wanted to preserve my friendship with someone, some things can't be forced or engineered. The same way I have had to let some people go because outgrew them, the same has been done to me. Though at the moment I might feel a little bad about it but over time as I realised that, i have also done it to others and most of the times it wasn't intentional. After I realised this I just understood, I wouldn't want to be the kind of person that refuse to accept what I'm serving others. But then, not everyone sees things from my point of view, so people always end up blaming the new financial status a person has attained and says things like, he/she had forgotten me because he/she became wealthier. Truly, money does changes people but most people just got busy with their new found lives and it is left to those left behind to accept it and move on because as they are doing so too, they are also leaving others behind.
This write-up was inspired by week 31 SciFi multiverse prompt titled "The drastic social change that comes with success" in SciFi multiverse community.
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