I am one of those who encourage divorce when a marriage is no longer working, and my only issue with the whole process is how people go about cheating the system. Unfortunately, marriage and divorce have become a business, and there are those cashing out steadily from it.
In this age and time, it’s surprising to know that there are people who despise divorce, probably because of their religion, culture, and belief. I consider it the simplest of ways to prevent disaster in a failed marriage, but there are those who think it’s bad. We’ve seen parents who insist that their child can’t end his or her marriage, while there are also individuals who take the decision themselves; they feel like they’ve gotten to their final destination, and in many cases, that’s what happens. They lose their lives, and indeed, it’s their final destination.
I do tell people that peace of mind is one of the most underrated things in the world because how do you stay in a failed marriage despite seeing all that’s happening out there? People lose their lives every day for staying in an abusive marriage, and you still think divorcing is not an option.
The impact of divorce extends from the parents to their children in a contradictory way because, while the parents’ mental health is at stake, the future of their children is also at risk. Couples avoiding separation because of their kids have a good point, but how long will it take before the parents lose their lives from violence, causing their children to become orphans in the end?
It’s quite understandable that every responsible parent wants to be part of their children’s lives, but when your life or mental health is at stake, penning down a divorce wouldn’t be a bad idea because it’s only when you are alive that you can cater to your children.
The story of the late gospel singer, Osinachi Nwachukwu, is one perfect illustration for this prompt. The gospel musician had been suffering in her relationship but chose to remain silent, staying in the marriage. Unfortunately, she ended up losing her life. Her husband, the culprit, was sentenced to death for committing murder, and their kids have automatically become orphans.
How on earth won’t those kids be eventually affected? It’s a double loss for the family; the kids will suffer, and their parents are dead as well.
It’s not necessarily a question of which comes first between the parents prioritizing their well-being and considering the future of their kids; what matters is acknowledging that both the children’s and parents’ well-being are important.
In a situation where divorce is necessary, there is nothing stopping the couple while considering the future of their kids. I am very sure the kids will understand if both parents take time to explain the situation of things, it must be an option communication involving every member of the family. If the kids are young, just postpone the explanation until they can understand.
Moreover, co-parenting is one way both parents can still be very present in the children’s lives. They can share custody depending on their agreement, and everything must be in writing to avoid issues in the future.
While the kids’ mental health matters a lot, the couple needs to also protect their mental health as well. Instead of the parents prioritizing themselves or just the kids, everyone can be put into proper consideration to keep things balanced.
As a matter of fact, exposing kids to prolonged violence in relationships can have a terrible effect on them, so either way, divorcing is also one way of helping the kids.
All Image Are Mine.
Posted Using INLEO