Sometimes we are too compassionate. We are wired to please, to keep saying yes, even when it's not convenient, to every request or question being asked by people around us, as we call them, friends and family. We have the feeling that we will disappoint someone or miss out if we don't act. But there is a saying, saying no is very important and can be of help to you.
I remember when I was offered a chance to volunteer for a programme. It was kind of what I wanted to do. I love helping people. And others, even without getting paid, I like doing good. But I was happy when I was about to go for the volunteer. But deep down, something was telling me that it is not the best time to do that. I had a lot of commitment in my hand. And the volunteer will be very six months away from home, trying to help people in another state.
So, at that moment, I believe in my job, my family, and the project, just to start this volunteering job. Sometimes I just stay awake at night, trying to think whether if influx of applications should go or not, and to the good. My heart wasn't at rest. I became surprised. Why would my mind stop me from doing good? And that feeling was very overwhelming.
And after days of thinking, I listened to my heart gave me some reason why I shouldn't go. So I decided to call the organiser of the programme and decided to call it off. And to my surprise, they said they understand. And I tried to explain to them that I had a busy schedule and they fully understand and understand me well. And they were happy that I prioritised my time. For the important things.
And at that particular moment, something came to me and I felt a very bit of relief. Instead of trying to be afraid, I put my head into other things that were important to me. And it flourished. I became more happier. That opened doors for me that I never knew existed.
So when you learn how to say no, you only need to trust yourself. Trust your judgement. And it will give you that position that you don't just want to please all. You have your own say-to and people should respect it. You have your own boundaries too that you can set for yourself. And it is okay. It doesn't mean that you are failing. It just means that you are trying to choose what is aligned with you. It's your own suit.
When you learn how to say no, you are not being selfish. You give yourself a gift by prioritising your needs also. Creating space for what matters in life. So, it is not to embrace that courage to say no. Even if you are scared, just say it. So that you don't put yourself in a situation where you tend to regret. Because you want to please others.
So, life is just about unlocking the key to your own path.
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