And I’m not too happy about it, because he had all these big coming out moments with other people, but he didn’t even come out with me, so I feel like I missed it.
During Christmas, he just shows up, gay, and that’s it!
“He’s here, he’s queer, get used to it!” but I didn’t even get that, it was more like a tumble weed blew into town, without all the cool visuals of a tumble weed. I always thought that when he finally came out we would have some touching moment or something; I would be on his side yelling, “fuck the man!” but no!
And the family that always said they would disown a gay kid... Well, they still owned two, as if nothing ever happened and the only reason I knew any of this was because my brother briefly mentioned a few things over the phone.
So, during Christmas, everybody was so busy, that it took like three days before my nephew and me could get away from the crowd to talk and to my shame I even tried to force the moment. He volunteered to go pick up Chinese food for everyone and he needed someone to show him the way, so even though I can barely see, I jumped at the chance.
On the way, he was just laughing at all my stupid coments, but I kept thinking, “He’s got to tell me or at least mention it, right?” but no! And by the time we were half way there, I couldn’t take it any more and I just blurted it out,
“I heard you came out of the closet!
“Yeah...” he responded as if it wasn’t a big deal.
“Why didn’t you tell me?” I pleaded, but I received no response, so I continued “I mean, I wanted to be able to get all dramatic, yelling out ‘No nephew of mine!’ and I wanted to mention Adam and Steve too!”
He just began laughing and before I knew it, we were at the Chinese restaurant; moment gone! I’m not sure if he thought I was joking or not.
Sarah says that the reason he never came out to me was because of a conversation we had five years earlier; just before I moved to the UK. He asked my opinion on bisexuality in sort of a negative way as if he was testing the waters and I replied,
“Everyone has intrusive thoughts, but that doesn’t make them bisexual, I think it depends more on what they actually want. But let’s say if you or your sister where bisexual, I wouldn’t care, because none of that stuff really matters.”
I know what you’re thinking, “Gonzo is like a guru master when talking to teens!,” but why the fuck didn’t I add that you at least have to come out to me too?
Sarah says that it’s because of that conversation and that he never felt like he had to come out to me or even though he didn’t actually say anything, he actually did come out to me on that day or something even more mysterious, who knows, Sarah says a lot of stuff that’s hard to follow.
Maybe he just didn’t want to have to go through with it again, because I heard that there was a major blow up when he came out to the rest of his extended family. And one of the Grandparents got so angry that they decided to celebrate Thanksgiving in the car outside of my nephews house, while waiting for the driver to finish watching football and eating Thanksgiving dinner.
So part of me feels like I kind of abandoned my nephew and the he needed me around for moments like that. Also, we’re not that close any more, it’s always been hard to get him to open up about things, but now it feels like there is a wedge between us, but that might just be due to the weird phases that people go through at his age. I’m hoping that him and his sister might want to spend the summer in the UK with me, but, at the moment, that seems a bit far fetched.
So have any of you ever experienced a coming out of the closet on either side and is there a LGBTQ community here on Hive?
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