Do we always have to forgive?
First let's under what forgiveness really mean then, we would be able to know if it's really necessary to forgive.
Forgiveness means pardoning an offender and letting go of anger, resentment, and thoughts of revenge. However this doesn't mean that you are condoning a wrong, minimizing it, or even pretending that it did not happen. Rather, it means that you thought about the persons action or behaviour and you personal decided to let go. You don't want to revenge or say angry because of their actions.
And this decision is based on the fact that you value your peace of mind and your mental health.
When we don't forgive, it can lead to some health issues like high blood pressure, pains disorder such as arthritis and headaches. It would also affect the relationship we have with others, we might even fall into depression.
Imagine you haven't forgiven someone who offended you, and you stop talking to them,the moment you meet with them your heart would skip because you haven't let go of that anger.
Now do we really have to forgive?
Yes, it's very important that we forgive others even when we feel they don't deserve it, this is because our health is involved. If you want to enjoy a healthy life you must learn to forgive.
A Life filled with anger and resentment is neither a happy one nor a healthy one.
Even our creator is always ready to forgive us our mistakes how much more we that are so full of imperfections why can't we do the same in imitation of him.
Like we offend God everyday of our existence and yet he doesn't stay resentful forever .
In most cases the offender might not even show any remorse because of that we might feel that they don't deserve our forgiveness. But the truth is we are letting go of that hurtful feelings we have because of the situation. We choose our peace and sanity over someone's mistakes.
Forgiveness doesn't really come easy because emotions are involved, feelings where hurt sometimes trust where broken and it's Okey to feel hurtful. Your feelings are valid and nobody should pressure you into forgiving.
Just take your time to heal, and reflect.
some of those mistakes are like life lessons you learn. Learn from it and move on.
Just let go for the sake of peace, your health and your happiness.