Granny and her grandson.
Honestly, motherhood is full of beautiful moments, many hugs, the giggles, the "I lofe you" but it also have it's own challenges those moments where where patience is truly tested.
Recently, I had my own share form one of those moments where I was almost losing it.
It was already bedtime for my son, but he was fully engrossed in his cartoon. When I told him it was time to go to bed, he immediately burst into tears and stormed off to his dad, hoping to escape “Mummy's rules.” I could see what he was trying to do. And I was so familiar with that move.
His dad wanting to calm him down was about to go turn the TV back on, But I calmly said "please Don't."
Why was I saying " please don't"? Was because I had already made that decision, and I needed him to understand that it's bed time and that throwing a tantrum can not bend the rules.
Well he cried his way to the bed.
It wasn't easy for me watching my son crying and upset, it hurts. But I am learning that being a parent I need to stand on my ground sometimes even when it's uncomfortable. Not out of harshness but out of love, I am trying to raise my child to understand that life doesn't always bend to our emotions, and to understand boundaries.
Sometimes, I question my actions i wonder if I am doing the right thing. But I have come to understand that being firm doesn't mean unkind, it just means I am intentionally guiding my son with consistency and love not with fear and guilt.
So, I Will keep learning, growing and doing my best. One tantrum, one deep breath and one firm decision at a time.