Once Bitten - Never Again!!!

It happened again, I offered a helping hand and ended up regretting that action. I had promised myself never to find myself in that situation ever again but I broke that rule again, it wasn't for love if I must be honest, I just don't like seeing people struggle and complain especially if there is something I can do to help the situation. So it happened again, it was my savings, I kept for a major thing, but because I felt I wouldn't be needing it anytime soon and before I would be in need of that saving, the person must have sorted himself out and refund me, but I was wrong, everything went wrong and I couldn't help but blame myself for not looking away when I should have. I regret every bit of it and there is nothing anyone would tell me to change that narrative. I would have looked away, I should have, everyone would have been fine even if I didn't take that step and action, so I regret it with everything in me, seeing how arrogant the person I thought I was helping is turning out to be so inconsiderate. ___ Months ago, I offered help where I shouldn't have, where I should have just walked away and paid deaf ears to all the nagging, grumpiness and complaints. The person in question was struggling financially and he was barely feeding properly, I couldn't stand it because at the time we were close, I can't say much what kind of relationship we had but I was privileged to know about the situation, so I stepped in to help, no he didn't ask me for the help, I just felt it was a humanly thing to do, offering help whenever you see another person struggling to survive. I didn't know I would regret it this much cause I wasn't expecting this turnout in the whole situation but well, I've learned my lessons and yet again I've promised myself never to try it ever again. They say _"once bitten, twice shy"_, so it wouldn't repeat itself. On lending this person some sum of money, his joy knew no bounds, his mood changed in a split second and he looked alive again, was able to do the things he should have done, a few months later when he was supposed to make a refund, he started saying all manner of things, saying he wasn't owning me and he never asked me for the help or to lend him money. I was hurt, I was mad, I was angry, I regretted my actions. I should have never done what I did for him, he wasn't deserving of it, I'm very sure of it, coupled with the things that happened during that period too, there were all indications that truly this person didn't deserve whatever help I offered and I am not being sorry for saying this, I just know that a good person shouldn't behave the way he did and say the things he said to me. If I had my way I would let go of the money and he would definitely suffer the cost of it, for my sweat and the fact that the money would have gone a long way in helping my own situation when I needed it but him refusing to make a refund hardened my own situation, though God still made a way for me to settle my own problems. ___  ^{[Pixabay](https://pixabay.com/photos/woman-hand-portrait-beauty-girl-6135236/)} ___ Today I am reflecting on the things that happened months ago, the actions I took, and how offering help where I should have never offered gave me a lifetime lesson that would be difficult to forget and how that situation hardened my heart towards another person that seems to be struggling. I know people say that we shouldn't let one bad experience change who we truly are, but I will say that this one changed not me but the way I offer unnecessary help to people. I would simply look away and walk away if I can cause I wouldn't want to make the same mistake again. So tell me, have you ever been in a situation where you offered help and then regretted it? What was it about? Can you share it with me? Thank you for stopping by today and have a blissful weekend!