Let's talk about something important, and this is concerning parenting, sometimes we as parents we have the mindset of raising our children so that they can take care of us or they can serve as our retirement plan when we are old, but the truth is children are not your pension, they are not here to reward you for raising them.
They didn't ask to be born by you, you are the one that made the choice, you choose to bring them to this world, and you are expected to take responsibility of nurturing and growing them till they become who they are supposed to be, that by guiding them and raising them the same way your own parents raised you and guide you without any expectation.
So imagine this, you decided to plant a seed, you nurture it and it becomes a seed, and it becomes a strong tree, do you expect that tree to just come around and start thanking and providing for you and start nurturing also, no, you just grew it because you wanted to see it thrive and maybe with the hope of bearing fruit in the future, that is how children are, they are both individuals with their own dreams, they are all part of life, your job is also to give them the roots, give them the care, show them the values, guide them Life from their young age into their own future.
So when you begin to raise your kids, with that expectation that they owe you something or they owe you financial support when you get old, you are setting yourself up for a big disappointment or heartbreak later in the future, so we are expected as players to stop placing an understatement. We are not expected to be a burden to our children because our children feel it, and sometimes it can strain our relationship and they may feel that they are not meeting up to our expectations which is very bad.
Instead of shifting our perspective, let us see parenting as just a gift that is not expecting repayment. I know you owe them your responsibility, you owe them your time, you owe them your resources, you owe them your care. You owe them your unconditional love. Because you are the one that brought them to this world. So with this kind of mindset, you free yourself from too much expectation. Don't expect your kids to make up for your mistake. So you celebrate their success as their own, not as the inflation of your what or your upbringing.
So you check them when they are succeeding in life and encourage them when they feel like giving up. And here is the beauty part of it. When you love without being too attached. You often get your love back in ways that you never imagined. Not because people owe you but because they see that there is genuine love around you.
We should raise our kids with a pure dedication, with no hidden agenda. We try to show them our unconditional love. So that when things happen in the future, you will not feel that they disappointed you. They are just living their lives chasing their own dream. With their own vision.
You have the power to disappoint them or not with their way but they don't owe you that love in return also. So as a parent, you can choose love, choose freedom, free to choose to raise them for their sake and not yours for the continuation of your generation and for the betterment of their future also.
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