>That of assuming impossible relationships, fighting until you leave the skin just for that "not to fail in your relationship", is an absurdity. We deserve happiness and we should always look for the relationships that best suit us. None is perfect, none will give you "total" happiness, but when you understand that a relationship where there is more crying than laughing or more fights than caresses must be ended, you get closer faster to the one that gives you much more growth, more happiness. It is essential to understand that when you endure a bad love the only thing you say about yourself is that you do not think you deserve something better. When you accept the abuse of your partner, in reality the one who abuses himself being in that hell, is you. If you are mistreated and you allow it, let's be clear and excuse the frankness, you do not love yourself. In fact, as long as you endure a bad love, you lose the notion that there are good loves. >What to do about that? Improve your self-esteem. Working on you. Cultivate your self-love. That's the feeling that will protect you from bad loves. The more self-esteem you have, the stronger you can be to get away from who you love but doesn't love you. Without a doubt, with healthy self-esteem you will be more objective about who you are, what you want for yourself, your strengths and weaknesses, and the right you have to love and be loved. Do you realize that? If you are loving another without ceasing to be you, that's it. Fundamentally because true love happens when two complete people decide to choose each other every day while still being themselves. It is like learning to look deeper; for example, the Uruguayan poet and writer Mario Benedetti, has taught us to translate life into simple and powerful words. Author of more than 80 books, his voice is still a bridge to the soul. His poem, one of my favorites "tactics and strategy" captivates us because it talks about the art of getting closer to the other, of building bonds from authenticity and affection. It is a reminder that relationships are not imposed, they are woven with sensitivity and presence like an indestructible bridge. Do you know, why? Because if you live to please you become a hostage of the image you want to keep. Wanting to be what others see in you, you end up not being able to express yourself or function freely. Wanting to please does not even assure that the other will be happy with who you are and what you do. Maybe making all the changes in the world to those people is not enough. ___ ___  ___ ___ Beautiful this little bird that came to visit me in my backyard. He is weaving significant bonds between the trees, perhaps, he is looking for a partner. Janitze.🌷❣️