I was wrong, I'm going to amend it...

Since you can't change the past, it's time to change what you do today. Because the facts are stubborn and the past does not admit of apologies. The past definitely influences our lives. I assure you: it configures the bases of our personality, it represents the origin of our traumas but it has the particularity that it has already happened. That is, past events cannot be modified, they can be reinterpreted. But, while that happens your life goes on and what do we do? Stop refusing to evolve, to break with the mirage of the past and not say NO to life while it runs its course. The answer is simple: take care of the present. This means understanding the power that our actions have TODAY. Every choice at the time of eating, of socializing, of setting limits counts. And I'm not telling you this so that you live in terror of the possible butterfly effect of everything you do, but so that you understand that at every moment there is an opportunity within your reach. That which you choose from the small things is what opens the doors of that life that you want to build.Whatever happens, don't do it the same as yesterday. Do the most radical act of self-love: let go. Let go of the guilt, let go of what you can't change. Every step forward is a declaration that you deserve more, that you are ready for what life has in store for you. Because the past has no power over those who decide to walk freely. Letting go of the past does not mean forgetting it !!! ... It means understanding it, thanking for the lessons and saying goodbye with dignity. And saying goodbye with dignity means taking the blame, because when the fault is ours and we recognize it, far from seeming like a punishment, it's an act of integrity. It is to understand that we are not perfect and that, sometimes, we hurt, but we can also repair. The real strength is in acknowledging it, in saying, ‘I was wrong, I'm going to make amends. *Because only when we take responsibility can we build more honest relationships* and, above all, live with the peace of mind of knowing that we did our best not to leave open wounds. Sometimes, it's not about moving forward. It is as possible to let go of what you have been dragging for years, the emotional burden of everything that you did not solve in time.And if that is so, it accompanies you all your life, even if you don't say it, even if you don't look at it, there it is, well kept inside you. Definitely, stories from the past do not save your life, they only connect you with something that once an event, an inconvenient moment decided to alter your purpose. What happened yesterday is also repeated many times, but not because we are not stuck in a rigid and endless destiny. How good it feels to let go and that's when one says: Why not where did it happen before? Because what you do not solve, hot amendments you carry all your life with you. The good is enjoyed, the bad is overcome. I don't know if they put it aside on a bedside table to see if a change happens on its own, instead of confronting it and living it, accepting it, overcoming it. To move forward sanely. Because no emotional pain goes away on its own. In my personal case I carry scars, several of them, some are closing slowly and others that I think are closed, I know they are there, any brush with them still hurts, but that's what life is about learning, healing, moving forward, falling and getting up. We must sow real values. Janitze 🦋