Sometimes you have it all... and still you can't enjoy it. A partner who loves you, who takes care of you, who is present in your own family nucleus. But you find yourself waiting for something to fail. You're sabotaging yourself. You are full of doubts. You tell yourself it's too good to be true. Sometimes life throws you down. It leaves you without desire, without direction, without strength. But that's where you see what you're made of. Because lying around doesn't fix anything. Reinventing yourself is not a fad, it's a necessity. And it is done with courage, even if we feel afraid, even if we do not know where to start. I am absolutely sure that the complaint will not get us up. The mood, yes. The good attitude, yes. That happens when you come from relationships where pain was the norm. When you learned that trusting was dangerous, and that love took its toll. So now that you have it, you don't know what to do with it. Not everything good ends badly. Not all happiness is temporary and we are not obliged to repeat what we lived before. What this is about is allowing us that this time may be different. When something works we must also learn to inhabit it, to sustain it, to take care of it without fear. And if today we have a relationship that does us good, let's not doubt it. >Be grateful, enjoy and let's learn to stay where there is peace. It took me several therapies to understand it. Nowadays I embrace love and I love coming home, hugging my husband and I believe in going to him.i love him so much. And it's reciprocal because he shows it every day, as long as we have each other. Although it sounds like a cliché, it's here and now the thing!. Love is a daily construction. There are loves that fill life. It is the duty of each of us to seek him and find him. >I am going to tell you a brief experience. Liliana, a friend of my family, grew up in a very loving home, as my mother says "Love with rigor". Understanding that there are no guarantees in love is fundamental because sometimes things don't happen? That's why they say that your partner ends up looking a lot like your dad, or your mom... 😂. She, Liliana, says that she grew up in the wrong version of what love is, because her parents loved each other but "terribly", with heated arguments, screaming, insults, invalidation, and emotional nullification, today her parents, are dead. She, Liliana, got married a couple of years ago and she feels that she is in that emotional burnout loop with her current husband. He remains defensive and repeating the pattern of his parents. I listened to her carefully and suggested that she will seek help, to change that pattern or mold of abusive behavior, of injuries, and poison. And that what I was experiencing is not a condemnation, that on the contrary I looked at it as an opportunity to restart. I also told him, that the things you don't do consciously to heal, are repeated as "fate". Understand, that if you can let go of that mental shackle, you need to start over. ____ ____  ___ ___ >Not everything good, ends badly... Definitely reviewing our emotional history gives us lights to work on ourselves and change for the better. Although Liliana did not have a maternal, paternal, loving, respectful, or faithful home. She decided to go to therapy and choose to be happy. ... There in "I Decided to choose", there is the key to exercising our personal power to change that which we inherit from negative patterns so that it does not have to be a condemnation. Janitze 💐