Of the most complicated things in a couple, one of them is the delivery. That issue is always thorny because usually when we have done it, they have failed us. As a result, we don't feel safe, we are afraid to give ourselves up again and we build emotional defense castles so that we won't get screwed over again. The thing is that if we don't give ourselves up, the other one won't either, and if we do then the other one can harm us. A tremendous paradox, isn't it? Quite a dilemma. From my point of view, one has to always surrender, not thinking about whether they are going to harm you or not. I think that, obviously, we should choose more wisely or have more eye when it comes to joining someone, that is, more selective, without falling into extremes, but, without a doubt, if we choose to be with someone, we should try to make everything work... *At least not to throw in the towel with the first conflict.* Can it go wrong? Yes, definitely. But I maintain that it is better to risk not having anything. Knowing that there are no guarantees in love, then the guarantee is to bet that it will work. This story is one of those moments that keeps me humble... 🤣 This happened to me with my current husband. Definitely, after telling you this anecdote, for sure, the only expectations I have to fulfill are my own. Many years ago I met a guy I really liked, and I was already practicing the fact of integrating my shadows and not denying them. When the boy heard that I am the kind of person that his mother would never approve of, putting on his best smile he said to me: "Neither my mom, nor my dad, chooses boyfriends for me." 💯 Without fear of anything, I told her that I was a liar, unfaithful, not a very good lover and prone to routine. He smiled again and said, "I better not tell you my past, you might be disappointed." In the end we kissed and started a love story 😂 It's been many years since that and I'm still convinced that there are never guarantees in love and that if you tell the absolute truth about yourself, you're never going to disappoint anyone, and even if that relationship ends, it's never going to end with the feeling that you were never yourself. And beware, it's not easy. Not lying about yourself is one of the most difficult actions there is, it is not always achieved. In fact, I haven't always succeeded. But that genuine effort of always trying to tell the truth about yourself, is the faithful guarantee that at some point you are going to manage not to disappoint anyone and, above all, yourself. By the way, when I'm in a bad mood, I make this potion with whipped topping cream, and it goes away very quickly, at least it covers my expectations and makes me very happy 😂. Janitze 🦋