Not everyone who gives an opinion builds ...

We all have the right to have an opinion, of course we do. But if our opinion only seeks to destroy, let's stop calling it "constructive criticism". 🙄 These days, I have been reflecting after 48 years of marriage how difficult it is to deal with the weight of “what will they say” before the image of being an “ideal couple”. I write about this because in my friendships, I have couples who are friends and they spend their time comparing and looking for “model" couples to compare their relationships, or idealize famous couples, which for me really doesn't make sense. Why?Because, there is no such thing as an ”ideal couple"; what does exist is the couple that is built from its own truth, even if it does not fit into what others expect. This is where I ask... Are we building our relationship in our own way or are we guided by the image of "ideal couples" that we see for example on social networks? Well, I think that every couple has its formula and seeks to build the relationship, at least my husband and I build it in our own way. Unfortunately there are many people who believe everything they see, and I differ in this because every relationship is unique, and we cannot compare ourselves and also not believe in a perfection that does not exist. So if each couple decides how to lead their life, the others have no right to have an opinion, many want to live or have faith in what is on social networks and forget about their own reality. Perfection does not exist, a relationship that is maintained over time by love is the one that has lived through storms, adversities and together have worked out and in many cases forgotten, I believe in love, in the couple, in the family, but real, it is my truth and it is consistent in my vision of things. We all have the right to live in peace, and to reject those who want to eradicate that right in us. That's why I avoid commenting on other people's relationships! Because no one is perfect either as a couple, or individually because everything and everyone has clear dark. So it will always be better to invest in being our best version and abandon that idea of being a keyboard judge of everything that doesn't look like us. It is good to remember that we are less than perfect humans, because each couple lives a unique reality. Do you have your feet on the ground? Or is he after the search for an ideal that is in his mind that if we place it in reason would seem as very difficult? Definitely, how stubborn we are, we achieve everything we ask of life, according to the beliefs of each one and yet, we are dissatisfied. What more do we want??? At least, Boti, my mini turtle, is very discreet when giving her opinion, and moves in silence to avoid the What will they say? Nice day , Janitze 🦋