>They also inherit the way we face, and challenge life. Our children feel "calm" if we are calm and they feel "anxiety" when the weight of our stress makes an appearance, they capture everything when they are with us. If they grow up seeing fear or anger permanently, that becomes their basis for action, otherwise it happens when what they see is strength and calm, then that's what they learn to build. My husband and I for years while we were raising our children, we worked a lot on our security, we even did therapies to be better parents, while they were growing up, it wasn't easy, but today my children are adults and we are sure that all the changes we made inside benefited our children's story for the better. I think the world is bad, there is a lot of evil, violence, wars, however, our intention was always to raise our children with self-love, so that they would not beg for affection, and not negotiate their dignity. I think it's the best gift, the best legacy whatever you who read me want to call it, that we have taught you. They, my children love by choice, not by necessity, that means we also give them emotional freedom...Thank God. Now I am a grandmother and they are working with their partners safely for their children, my grandchildren. This is my experience, loving from the fullness is an act of strength, not of sacrifice. I have three children, two females and one male, the treatment of dad and the male figures in a girl's life are of great relevance. We need to raise our children with strength, and give them parents who are good household references, with self-esteem, personality structure and something very important: teach them to understand love from freedom and not from possession. Although every child has their own ideal of parents, studies have found that most children want parents with the qualities that are compatible with them, parents who love them, respect them, and allow them to expand in material achievements, love, connection and creativity. We need conscious parents, who raise their children for life. Parents who raise children prepared for when they go out into the jungle, our society, our world, with basic and elementary principles, such as: You don't need anyone to complete you, you were already born complete; you don't need anyone, you just choose to have him in your life and last but not least that they teach their children that self-love will always be the best compass, that will guide them and let them know when to stay and when to leave, a place, relationship and moments that are not opportune. Especially that they learn to say what they feel without feeling guilty. I feel so happy to see all the beautiful achievements of my children. Nice and productive day. Janitze.🌷