Have you noticed, that we are always waiting for “the perfect moment”? Definitely, they are immense small steps that you know, you should take action for example: what you have to do, but you still keep postponing it, as if time was going to wait for you. Look, no. Time does not stand still, and the perfect thing, the truth is that... it almost never arrives!. From my own experience and that of so many people I have accompanied in postgraduate counseling at the university where I work, I am sure that procrastinating is not lazy, it is not a lack of desire, it is often a way to avoid fear. In the case of the postgraduate thesis students at the university where I work, many of them express to me to feel fear and in fact sometimes I observe them euphorically before defending and presenting the thesis or research project, before a jury, which is obviously evaluating them, for after a debate to qualitatively rule, whether or not they approve the final work to opt for the academic degree in the Master's Degree or in the university doctorate. Why? Many times it is because of fear of failure, criticism, change and leaving their comfort zones. This particular type of experience has taught me that living is an apprenticeship, and it has its own laws, starting with the time and circumstances that touch us. If one wants, one learns something: first of all, to accept reality, without conformism and the value of some words such as: Humility, gratitude, forgiveness, generosity, accompanying, solidarity, not judging and some others more. Secondly, to set limits even if it is an uncomfortable process. Now, why do we feel bad about setting limits?... The truth is that setting limits is always an uncomfortable process, because it involves affecting the interests of another, ceasing to be the good guy or to agree and tests interpersonal relationships. ____ ____  ___ ___ Fundamentally, because dignity is to choose from our criteria, not from external pressure. Our your value is not in convincing everyone, but in being able to look in the mirror and recognize ourselves without lowering our gaze. Letting someone else's opinion define who we are is like handing them the keys to our life. That's definitely not the point. That's not how you live. The best thing is to think before acting, and why not, ask ourselves: "Does this represent me or betray me?”. That answer is our limit, it's the perfect time, to put a stop to the people who benefit from us not setting limits. Besides, no relationship can stand this.Things have to be done already, once and for all, there are times when she postponed personal matters such as going to the dentist, I'm working on that and I've already made an appointment for next week. Janitze 💐