Without the ghosts of the past ...

>We must open ourselves to love. Let's not fall for lies and stories on the way: love does not always look like in the movies. Sometimes he is more discreet, more mature, more free. It is to walk together without pushing, celebrating the steps that each one takes, without wanting to control them, and without infidelities. True love cannot be supplanted in a short time, I think that before starting another relationship we must heal with ourselves, because if we don't we are going to be emotionally unstable, and we are going to keep pulling out a nail with another nail, that is; if you are unfaithful in the entry relationship you will be at the exit. Really, it has happened to all of us, we repeat self-destructive behaviors when we do not recognize that we have them and do not seek help to solve them and it is not a "generalization" but it can happen. >Why? Because no one has to put up with anything, "for love"? ... When there is trust and acceptance, there are no chains that oppress chains. What sustains is not possession but the reciprocity of giving and receiving, without fear of losing yourself, of annulling yourself, being each one who is in his best version. To love is to learn to be free, but in good company and that good company paves the way for us to establish bonds from healthy boundaries. When we understand that real love liberates us, we are happier as a couple. I confess that I have lived lol and of course, with so many emotional situations, that I have had for many years with my husband, emotional understanding is present. Using I say "love is acceptance" I mean that he first accepted me even when I am impulsive and I love myself, from this point of view I can recognize in my husband in his differences, to tolerate and accept his shadows and lights. And let me tell you, that between my difficult conversations with my husband I must keep in mind when I feel that there is no reciprocity, because he is absent, then, that's when I shout to the sky and tell him: *"our bond for more than 47 years, has been based on reciprocity... What's the matter with you?... What has changed?"* . My husband looks me up and down at those questions. I always remind him that the most sensible thing and that has led us to live a real relationship,... The truth is that our love and coexistence is reciprocal in all aspects, we support and accompany each other *without suffocation* with our willingness to always look for a solution to everything, even in illness we have done so. Many times inaction, passivity, in the face of problems is a clear response that you no longer want to be there, be careful with this. Fortunately my husband loves in me, even what he does not fully understand, and leaves me my space, to be myself, supports me, celebrates my achievements, accompanies me in my steps and hugs me when I am very sad. >Past behavior, predicts the future... Be careful, then... Buckle up, butterscups!. I'm not saying it's easy, but it's part of life. As I always say, there are no guarantees in love. Everyone knows what they are doing and what they want, and that they are not transparent enough in communication is another thing. Janitze 🦋