Lets discuss something this morning, men don’t like to hear:
Many men are not broke because they don’t have opportunities or connections. Most men are broke because they don’t have boundaries.
You like to say things like “I don’t want to disappoint my guys.” But to be honest — same guys will laugh at you when you can’t pay your rent or solve your needs.
Let’s break it down:
A) CLUBBING/FLEXING WITH BROKE FRIENDS Some men spend money they don’t have, in places they don’t like, to impress people they don’t know. Your friends call you on Friday: “Guy, no dull, let’s turn up.” You follow them, spend ₦100k in one night, then trek to work on Monday or even borrow from neighbor. Ask yourself: did that costly drink build your future? Or did it just prove you can’t say NO?
Solution: Learn the power of staying home, enjoying at home. A man who can enjoy his own company will never be broke trying to impress outsiders.
B) CONTRIBUTIONS YOU CAN’T AFFORD Your guys say: “We’re contributing ₦10k each for unnecessary thing You know you don’t have it, but you borrow just to belong. That’s not brotherhood, that’s financial suicide and failed future plan.
Solution: never be afraid to say: “I can’t join this one.” Real men don’t fear rejection, they are themselves— they fear poverty.
C) FAKE PACKAGING TO MATCH THEM Because your friends are rocking designers, you go and buy “Gucci belt ₦4,500, Now you’re broke and still fake. Masculinity is not about fitting in, it’s about standing out with purpose, fighting instant pleasure for future enjoyment
Solution: Invest in assets, not appearances, open businesses, learn handwork.Your future will respect you more than your friends ever will.
D) BEING THE ‘ATM FRIEND’ Every group has that one guy they know will always pay. If you’re always the one covering bills, food, and transport for “the boys” — can i tell you something ,They’re not your friends, you’re their sponsor.
Solution: Cut off the leeches, identify fake friends, If they only call when they need money, they’re not brothers, they’re enemies.
E) FEAR OF BEING CALLED STINGY Some men go broke because they don’t want to be labeled stingy. Listen — being stingy is cheaper than being stupid. Your goal is not to impress men who are also struggling, it’s to build a future where your wife and children (family) won’t beg.
Solution: Embrace the title “stingy” with pride. Use that money to build your empire, not to please friends nor to maintain friendships that won’t last.
Lastly A man who cannot say NO will always be controlled by others. And a man who is controlled by others can never control his destiny.
Discipline is the new masculinity. If you don’t build the courage to walk away from unnecessary expenses or learn to say NO, you will walk straight into poverty with your friends clapping for you, AND guess what they will still leave you when you fail
Well let me ask you,
Are you living for your friends’ approval or for your future family’s survival? 🤔
@Joeboi ❤️