Modesty has several meanings depending on the context. The most popular understanding of modesty is often tied to a person’s appearance. In that sense, modesty refers to dressing in a way that is not sexually appealing or covering the body appropriately according to cultural or societal standards.
However, I personally see modesty in a different light. To me, modesty goes beyond clothing or outward appearance. It is about choosing simplicity in life and not being arrogant about one’s achievements. I came to understand this deeper meaning of modesty through someone I know.
I remember back then, after Nysc while i was job hunting, I applied for a federal government job. One of the requirements was to get a referral from a high-ranking civil servant to sign and stand as my referee. I asked everyone I knew, but none of them were up to the required rank. One day, someone suggested my mother’s friend. I immediately said, “No, I don’t think she’s that high in rank.” The person chuckled and replied, “It seems you don’t know who she really is in the office.”
Her lifestyle was so different from her achievements at work that I doubted it. I told my mom about it, and she quickly called her friend to inform her. She then told me to meet her at home immediately because she was about leaving for work.
When I got there, I was shocked. She had a personal driver who came to pick her up, yet on normal days she preferred to walk or take commercial bus. I didn’t even know she owned a car! When she signed the document for me, I realized her rank was far higher than what was required on the form.
She noticed the surprise on my face. Being my mother’s close friend who often played and joked with me, she seemed to know exactly what I was thinking. She looked at me and said, “I choose simplicity because I want people to relate with me easily, irrespective of my achievements. The top can be a lonely place, because you can never truly tell who genuinely cares for or loves you.”
Since that day, my definition of modesty changed entirely.
For me, modesty is all about simplicitynot just in lifestyle, but also in appearance, speech and how we treat others.The way a person dresses can communicate so much about them, even before you get to know their character so be modest in your appearance.
A modest person does not flaunt their wealth or achievements, yet their impact is felt in their humility. A modest person does not speak to belittle others, but uses word that uplift and encourage.
So, I will say that in all that we do, we should strive to be modest, whether in appearance, status, speech, or actions. Modesty is not weakness rather strength under control. It creates room for respect, love, and genuine relationships to flourish.
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