Gender Equity: Fairness in Life and Love

Whenever I hear gender equity, most times it sounds like a complicated concept mostly used in complicated situation of males and females. What gender equity really means is fairness on both men and women, making sure both sides are allowed to play their unique roles perfectly without anyone raising issue or saying anything also making sure both sides has access to the same opportunities not raising any issue due to their gender.  _{image generated using ImageFx} Now bringing it to a family setting and society at large, I've heard a lot of family fall apart because of this gender equity of a thing. What is a man supposed to do?, What is a woman supposed to do? Now what most believe is that, a man is the one who provides for the family, pays the rent, mostly pays the bills and all while a woman is the one who stays at home, do the house chores, take care of the kids clean the house and all. That's how they see gender equity they believe that it is giving the man upper hand and making women irrelevant but that's not how it is supposed to be. Gender equity is supposed to be balancing and creating fairness in both gender. While some people see men as the person that is supposed to provide and see woman as a person that is supposed to be the house keeper, in today's world it is not like that. Most times, women are even providing financially more than men and these same women will still go home take care of the house and kids after a very stressful day at work. Now bringing gender equity into this situation means that the man is not expecting that the woman comes home to clean the house and the woman is not expecting that the man has to be the one or must be the one to provide for the family.  _{image generated using AI} Growing up, my mum didn't give room for anything like "because she's a girl she has to do this* or" because he's a boy he has to do this". I remembered we had a neighbor then that believes that a woman is supposed to be indoor and not walk around or go out just like men. He came to our house one day and saw that my dad was the one in the kitchen and then the next thing he said was that my dad shouldn't allow my mum take advantage of him, said why will my dad be in the kitchen when it is the work of my mum and all, but my dad told him there wasn't a problem there. The man also had a problem with females talking; he believes that once a man or men are talking, a female is supposed to shut up and just watch everything that's going on. This same man didn't believe in anything gender equity, my dad tried explaining things to him but all he did was stop coming to our place and he also told his children to stop relating and talking to us. Before we packed out of the house, the man's wife died so the man was left with his 3 children a girl and two boys that was when reality started hitting the man. The girl couldn't cope as she was the last born so there wasn't much she could do She didn't know how to cook, just little little house chores, the boys on the other hand don't know how to do anything they couldn't even wash their clothes themselves. At first the man called people to wash clothes and he paid them but I think he couldn't pick up. He started cooking by himself, started raising his voice at his children that couldn't cook or do any household chores. That is what happens when gender equity is missing and trust me this one is not even a be problem. There are bigger problems than this. Women should be able to rise to political positions without people saying they are too emotional or soft. Women should be able to say their opinions no matter what. Men should also be allowed to take a break. It doesn't have to be only the man that should provide for the family. I actually thought about it that what if it was the man that died how will his family cope because everyone knows that it is just the man that is working. The woman doesn't have a job of her own. Men should be able to cry and even take paternity leave without people mocking them for not being man enough. Gender equity allows both men and women to succeed, to fail, to live freely without being judged by the society and their expectations. Gender equity doesn't mean everyone is doing the same thing, it means everyone is given equal value. It means fairness to both gender