EstĂĄ semana me pasĂł algo muy curioso.
Me hice consiente de que muchas personas no me respetan y que, obviamente, es responsabilidad mĂa.
Todo comenzĂł cuando le pedĂ un favor a alguien ( no era una cosa del otro mundo, era solo un objeto que ella tenĂa y le dije: yo te lo devuelvo mĂĄs tarde) y su respuesta fue : no.
Eso me molestĂł mucho, porque yo suelo hacerle muchos favores a esa persona y el hecho de que no me ayudara, no lo vi justĂł.
Lo peor de todo es que no es la primera vez que esa persona me hace eso: muchas veces me negĂł favores ( importantes) y aĂșn asĂ yo seguĂa ayudĂĄndola.
LlegĂł a un punto en que esa persona ni si quiera me pedĂa el favor, sino que simplemente asumĂa que yo se lo harĂa.
ÂżY adivinen?
Exacto.
Yo no lo decĂa nada.
Ahora bien, esto no se trata de cobrar favores. No soy de las personas que da para recibir algo a cambio, pero tampoco estoy de acuerdo con el abuso y creo que esa persona abusĂł de mi solidaridad y yo se lo permitĂ.
QuizĂĄ porque tengo exceso de â supuesta compasiĂłnâ . Algo que no es sano ni para mi ni para la otra persona.
¿Por qué?
Porque no le enseño nada. Porque no me doy a respetar.
A veces creemos que tendiendo la mano consecutivamente a una persona la estamos ayudando. Le estamos demostrando nuestro amor. Pero no siempre es asĂ.
La cruda verdad es que solo le alcahueteamos su irresponsabilidad.AdemĂĄs de fomentar la falta de respeto.
Ayudar tambiĂ©n es decir no: no puedo, no quiero. âNo, porque eres una persona mal agradecida. No, porque no eres una persona que valora lo que las otras hacen por ti. No porque no lo mereces. No y punto.
Para finalizar quiero decir que ya no le haré favores a esa persona; no por simple malicia, si no para que aprenda.
A partir de ahora si quiere un favor mĂo va a tener que ganĂĄrselo, respetarme, porque yo no voy a estar ayudando a quien no se merece nada de mĂ.
Les envio amor đđ
ENGLISH This week something very curious happened to me.
I became aware that many people donât respect me and that, obviously, itâs my responsibility.
It all started when I asked someone for a favor (it wasnât anything major, just an item she had, and I told her, âIâll return it to you laterâ), and her response was: no.
That really bothered me, because I usually do a lot of favors for that person, and the fact that they didnât help me just didnât seem fair.
The worst part is that itâs not the first time that person has done that to me: many times theyâve refused to do me favors (important ones), and yet I still kept helping them.
It got to the point where that person didnât even ask me for the favor; they just assumed I would do it.
And guess what?
Exactly. I didnât mean anything by it.
Now, this isnât about calling in favors. Iâm not one to give in order to get something in return, but I also donât agree with being taken advantage of, and I think that person abused my generosityâand I let them.
Maybe itâs because I have an excess of âsupposed compassion.â Something that isnât healthy for either me or the other person.
Why?
Because I donât teach him anything. Because I donât stand up for myself.
Sometimes we think that by repeatedly reaching out to someone, weâre helping them. We are showing them our love. But itâs not always that.
The harsh truth is that weâre just enabling his irresponsibility. Beside fostering a lack of respect.
Helping also means saying no: I canât, I donât want to. No, because youâre an ungrateful person. No, because youâre not someone who values what others do for you. Not because you donât deserve it. No, and thatâs that.
To conclude, I want to say that I wonât do any more favors for that person; not out of mere malice, but so they learn. From now on, if you want a favor from me, youâll have to earn it and respect me, because Iâm not going to help anyone who doesnât deserve anything from me.
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