Si existe una formula de felicidad para mà es que está “dentro de ti”
Ahora bien, muchos años atrás yo no razonaba asĂ. Es más, yo creĂa que la felicidad era algo que yo tenĂa que obtener de afuera, es decir, de otras personas, situaciones o cosas y que si tenĂa eso, entonces, sĂ serĂa feliz.
Cuan equivocada estaba.
Lo cierto es que debido a los cambios fĂsicos y psicolĂłgicos de la adolescencia, esa chica alegre, sonriente y feliz que un dĂa fui, se esfumo. En cambio, se empezĂł a formar una mujer amargada, llena de rencores y traumas, que aunque intentaba disfrutar de los buenos momentos, siempre me sentĂa incompleta.
PercibĂa una grieta, un vacĂo que necesitaba ser llenado con algo para poder ser feliz.
ÂżDinero? ÂżUna pareja que me amara? Âż Viajes al exterior?
No sabĂa exactamente que era lo que necesitaba para ser completamente feliz, pero tenĂa mucho anhelo de encontrarlo, asĂ que comencĂ© a probar con lo anteriormente mencionado; no obstante, nada me funcionaba.
Bueno, nada, a excepciĂłn de las parejas, cuando tenĂa novio me sentĂa un poquito feliz. Sin embargo, ninguna pareja se termino de ajustar a lo que yo querĂa lo que ocasionĂł en mĂ una gran tristeza y una tremenda infelicidad si estos no cumplĂan mis expectativas.
Hice esto por años hasta que la vida me presentĂł una situaciĂłn muy difĂcil de esas que te obligan a cambiar. Fue entonces, cuando un libro que ya he mencionado en mis post anteriores, me hizo entenderlo todo. IniciĂ© un proceso de desaprender todo lo que habĂa metido en mi cabeza y aprendĂ a perdonar, que para mĂ es un ingrediente principal de la felicidad.
Pero no el perdĂłn que todos conocen de: te perdono porque me hiciste esto o me hiciste aquello, sino el perdonarnos a nosotros mismos por creer que ellos nos hicieron algo.
Perdonar traumas y perdonar muchas cosas que ni yo sabĂa que tenĂa en mi cabeza. Fue allĂ cuando por fin comencĂ© a ver luz despuĂ©s de tanta oscuridad y me di cuenta que cuando quitaba todo esos resentimientos que habĂa acumulado a lo largo de la vida, lo Ăşnico que quedaba dentro de mĂ era paz y felicidad.
Entonces, me di cuenta que la felicidad no es algo que viene de afuera sino que está dentro de nosotros, pero para acceder a ella la mente debe estar limpia de todo rencor.
La felicidad para mĂ es estar en paz, gozo y con la cabeza libre de problemas. Es acostarme en el porche de mi casa y que mi mente pueda estar en calma, escuchando solo el canto de los pajaritos. Sintiendo los rayos del sol sobre mi piel y mirando el cielo mientras las nubes parecen moverse.
Mi libro favorito me ha enseñado que la felicidad procede de dentro de nosotros.
Y esto lo recalco, porque usualmente pensamos que la felicidad procede de otra persona. Soy feliz porque él me ama. No. Para mi la felicidad no se puede poner en ilusiones, es decir, en personas, cosas o situaciones porque siempre te defraudarán.
Además, la vida es muy voluble, imagĂnense, un dĂa tienes una pareja y al otro dĂa te dice que ya no te ama, entonces, te echas a morir porque has puesto tu felicidad en una ilusiĂłn. En algo que puede que un dĂa ya no estĂ©. En vez de darte cuenta que esa felicidad no procedĂa de la otra persona sino de ti misma. Nosotros somos felicidad.
Nosotros somos amor y nuestra función es solo extenderlo a los demás. A tu familia, a tus seres queridos, a alguna persona que lo necesite.
Eso no quiere decir que no lloremos o que no nos sintamos mal después de algún suceso como el que expliqué anteriormente, esto quiere decir que tú fuente de la felicidad jamás se termina porque es eterna y siempre está dentro de ti.
Les enviĂł mucho amor đź’•đź’•Foticos con mi sobrina hermosa
Gracias a @tonyes por iniciativa. Invito a @liveofdalla @danielvehe y @yris89 para que nos digan su formula de la felicidad.
ENGLISH If there is a formula for happiness for me, it is that it is “inside you”.
Now, many years ago I did not reason like that. In fact, I believed that happiness was something I had to get from the outside, that is, from other people, situations or things, and that if I had that, then I would be happy.
How wrong I was.
The truth is that due to the physical and psychological changes of adolescence, that cheerful, smiling and happy girl that I once was, vanished. Instead, a bitter woman began to form, full of resentment and traumas, and although I tried to enjoy the good times, I always felt incomplete.
I sensed a crack, a void that needed to be filled with something in order to be happy.
Money, a partner who loved me, trips abroad?
I didn’t know exactly what I needed to be completely happy, but I was very eager to find it, so I started to try the above mentioned; however, nothing worked for me.
Well, nothing, except for couples, when I had a boyfriend I felt a little bit happy. However, no partner ever matched what I wanted, which caused me great sadness and tremendous unhappiness if they did not meet my expectations.
I did this for years until life presented me with a very difficult situation that forces you to change. It was then, when a book that I have already mentioned in my previous posts, made me understand everything. I started a process of unlearning everything I had put in my head and I learned to forgive, which for me is a main ingredient of happiness.
But not the forgiveness that everyone knows: I forgive you because you did this or you did that to me, but forgiving ourselves for believing that they did something to us. Forgiving traumas and forgiving many things that I didn’t even know I had in my head. It was there when I finally began to see light after so much darkness and I realized that when I removed all those resentments that I had accumulated throughout my life, the only thing that remained inside me was peace and happiness.
Then, I realized that happiness is not something that comes from outside but that it is within us, but to access it the mind must be clean of all resentment.
Happiness for me is to be in peace, joy and with my head free of problems. It is lying on the porch of my house and my mind can be calm, listening only to the song of the birds. Feeling the sun’s rays on my skin and watching the sky as the clouds seem to move.
My favorite book has taught me that happiness comes from within us.
And I emphasize this, because we usually think that happiness comes from someone else. I am happy because he loves me. No. For me happiness cannot be put in illusions, that is, in people, things or situations because they will always let you down.
Besides, life is very fickle, imagine, one day you have a partner and the next day he tells you that he doesn’t love you anymore, then, you are going to die because you have put your happiness in an illusion. In something that may not be there one day. Instead of realizing that this happiness did not come from the other person but from yourself.
We are happiness. We are love and our function is only to extend it to others. To your family, to your loved ones, to someone in need.
This does not mean that we do not cry or that we do not feel bad after an event like the one I explained above, it means that your source of happiness never ends because it is eternal and is always within you.
Sending you lots of love đź’•đź’•Foticos with my beautiful niece
Thanks to @tonyes for initiative. I invite @liveofdalla, @danielvehe and @yris89 to tell us if they formulate happiness.
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