Ghosting was not something I thought I would ever do, because I am the type that naturally loves to explain myself and state the whys to some actions I want to take before going ahead to take them. Just see it that I value communications a lot, and I don't like people assuming wrongly about me, so I strive to always explain the many whys as the need arises and maybe seek to fix every error and continue to live peacefully with people, but then, it came to a point in my life with a friend that ghosting was really needed.
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I was speechless and overwhelmed by her actions, and the best I could do was gradually ghost her to date. Well, it didn't happen to one person or two; some people are just not meant to stick with us forever and that's the simple truth no matter how we strive to maintain a friendship . Some are like marketers, coming and going back; some even hurt us and go, while some create nice memories and vanish too—that's life. Some persons have ghosted me in the past, and I did the same too to a few others when it was necessary. The simple way I can define ghosting is detaching yourself from someone with no text messages, no calls, no explanations of any sort, no goodbye, no nothing, and that was what I did.
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It could be for different reasons, and you just say some matters are better left undiscussed. It could be that our goals and interests aren't aligning anymore, it could be due to toxic friends, etc.
However, there was a time I had to ghost someone who was once close to me, and I never wished it could be reversed! Let's just call this babe Rita. She was one of the friends I made here in Lagos when I relocated newly. The estate looked so lonely, but she never made me feel bored. I loved her vibes and positive energy until she started demonstrating negative energies all around me. The way we were bonded, eh! She used to be the first person I shared my good news with, with all excitement. I also don't withhold sharing my low moments with her, and she will cheer me up, but as time goes on, I begin to notice something unusual from her.
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For every good news I share with her, instead of her usual excitement, she will begin to compare, even complain and criticize my choice of certain things as if we are in one competition. I only see her as a good person when I share bad news with her; she will begin to tell me how God won't forsake me. I know, but why is she not happy with my good news? Why was it always a matter to analyze with low energy? I was quite sensitive because it kept repeating itself, and I tried correcting her, but it will only end in quarreling without any positive change.
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Her consistent attitude started to affect my peace of mind, which is a luxury to me. I was no longer comfortable at the sound of her name. Even when her call comes in, my heart skips, oh boy... I had to choose to protect my mind over the friendship. I didn't know what to say to her, than started ghosting her gradually till date.
Everything about us dropped: the calls, the gist, village market shopping for food stuffs, oh!I missed that one...lol, but the ghosting was needed to protect my sanity.
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