Don't bleed on others.

## Hello, everyone. I welcome you to my blog and another wonderful edition of the Hive Learner's featured post. Handling and dealing with pain varies from one individual to another; some people absorb the pain and try not to bleed on others (people who did not cause them the injury or know about the pain), and then there are some people whoseown way of handling and dealing with pain is by bleeding on others and causing them pain while blaming it on the pain an entirely different person caused them. This is life, and we all need to come up with a coping mechanism for pain and hurt, as they are all a part of life; they come from places and people that we least expect to actually hurt us.  [Source](https://unsplash.com/photos/a-man-with-a-bloody-hand-on-his-shirt-8D0UV5SuU0E) In this context I am not talking about physical injury or pain, as that one is easy to handle; you can just point out where it hurts and a medicine is applied to ease the pain. Here I am talking about emotional pain, emotional scars, and emotional injuries—those that cannot be seen, nor can a medicine be applied to ease the pain. At some point in our lives we have had to deal with emotions being toyed with or an incident that really hurt our emotions, and how we reacted to it varied. Some handled it well and did not let how much it hurt decide their actions, while some allowed how it hurt to control them and even went as far as punishing people around them for the pain they felt. We all have seen cases of people who are hurt causing and inflicting pain on other people all because they are hurt and feel like that is the best thing to do or the best way to heal from the pain they feel. Had a neighbor who almost committed suicide when he found out his girlfriend was only playing games with him; he was madly in love with her from his end, but from her end it was just games and payback for what her ex did to her. She claims her ex played her for a fool, whereas she was madly in love and wanted something more, and then she felt the only way she could heal or get over it was to cause the same pain or hurt to someone else, and she actually did because my neighbor was not himself for months, and it took a while before he recovered. As much as punishing one person for the sins of another feels like a way to cope or heal from the pain, it is actually a wrong thing to do. We heal and cope with pain differently, but having to punish others or make others undergo the same level of pain should not be one of the ways we heal and cope with pain. The pain you had to deal with made you a monster, and now you want another person to undergo the same emotional trauma and scar, thereby creating another monster, and before you know it, through you, many more monsters have been created for a pain or emotional trauma that should have ended with you.  [Source](https://unsplash.com/photos/a-person-with-a-small-tattoo-on-their-arm-E_Jb9rSSgC8) Absorb the pain and deal with it in any way you deem fit that does not have to do with inflicting pain on others or causing them to deal with the same thing you had to deal with. Let the pain end with you as we make the world a better place to live in.