Parenting can get really difficult sometimes.

## Hello, everyone. I welcome you to my blog and another wonderful edition of the Hive Learner's featured post. One journey you cannot start without the right preparation is parenting, and if circumstances force you to do so without the right preparation, it makes it even more difficult, and you might end up being a bad parent. Some people even prepared and braced for impact and still turned out to be the worse parents; what about one that did not prepare at all? Parenting is really difficult from start to finish, but it gets even more difficult when kids get to the age where they start to ask for some privacy and too much invasiveness from parents becomes annoying to them.  [Source](https://unsplash.com/photos/mother-braiding-daughters-hair-on-staircase-lTyBMy6Lqts) Some parents are very strict and don't give their kids any breathing space to be themselves or be free; it is always the strict parents that don't know when to cut their kids some slack. We also have parents who have a friend-like relationship with their kids even while trying to make sure the kids stay on the right track; this type of parent tends to know what their kids need, if they need some space or if they want them (the parent) in their space. The aim of every parenting style and the hope of every parent is that their child does not end up on the wrong track or become what they preach against; they hope that their child also grows up to stand for what they stand for, and for this reason some of them hold on too tight even when they are supposed to let go or cut the child some slack. Many parents, especially African parents, feel the moment they cut the child some slack or give the child some privacy, that automatically gives room for irregularities and the child becoming wayward, and for that, they hold on even tighter. Many parents, and like I stated before, African parents need to know and understand that as much as parents deserve privacy, kids deserve privacy too. At a young age, it is okay for parents to be invasive and make sure they keep tabs on everything that concerns the child: their way about, where they are, who they are with, and what they are up to. The child's every move should be monitored just to ensure that they don't go about doing the wrong things, as they are still very young and cannot completely take care of themselves. But the moment they start approaching the age of adolescence and are in their late teens, they should be given some privacy, not too much, but just enough so they don't feel like they are being suffocated and then end up resenting their parents instead of loving them. We all during our teens wanted a level of freedom; some got it, and some did not, and for that reason, they ended up resenting their parents. As a parent, making sure your kids are not doing the wrong thing is good, but you should know when to give them some space and let them be themselves.  [Source](https://unsplash.com/photos/a-group-of-people-walking-down-a-street-5S59Bsr2ZXI) Also in their mid-20s and late 20s, I think kids deserve complete privacy, as at that age and point of their lives they are now adults; they know what is wrong and what is right, and they know what they should do and not do, so complete control over their lives is advised, and the privacy they deserve despite being kids should also be given. Many of our parents still see us as kids no matter the age, and that can be very annoying. Parents have to understand that their kids cannot and will not remain kids forever.