DANGERS OF LIE OF OMISSION

Hello everyone, happy new week once again!!!, it's great we are starting this new week with another beautiful topic called "Lie of Omission" What is even lie itself?, when I say someone lied to me, what most people will think about is a simple outright lie but it is a statement made in a very thoughtful way to deceive. However, there is another kind of lie which conceals itself in silence and incomplete truths, it is called the lie of omission which is when a person narrates a portion of the story but does not include the details that are able to alter the perception of the situation entirely. To me, such a lie is just as dangerous as any other lie because it hides under the banner of innocence and such a lie can be even more damaging than a pure lie.  I remember the first time I experienced someone do it to me when I was a teenager. My cousin approached me one day pleading that I borrow him some money so I got my little savings and I gave it to him, he promised that he would pay me back by the following week but the following week came and he only gave me half of the money promising to pay me the remaining later that week, however he did not tell me that the rest of the money was spent on something already but he abandoned me to think that the balance will soon follow but it didn’t and weeks turned to months. Such silence, such absence of part of the truth was more bitter than if he had looked at me in the eye and said "I can not pay you back", that would have been taking the sad pill once and for all, than playing with my intelligence. The peril of omission is the game of tampering with one's mind, senses and intelligence, the betrayal then becomes even more later when the truth that has been buried comes out and you do not only feel deceived but feel stupid to have believed the person at the first instance. Many people defend it and say “Though, at least I did not lie” however, they are not innocent too. When a man tells a woman that he is unmarried but omits the fact that he has two children with another woman out of wedlock, is he telling the truth? 😩 Yes, he did not directly lie but he put a different narration in her mind and when that fact finally comes out, the woman is left with the pain which might have been prevented.  Just like the way our politicians promise us new roads, electricity, jobs etc during election but they omit the taxes, the loans and the burden which will be placed on us during their administration. Parents who also believe that they are shielding their children but they hid some facts which in the future destroy may trust in the family. I remember when I missed a test when I was still in university, the lecturer questioned me on the reason why and I quickly responded "Sir I was not feeling well" Hmm that was partly true, although it was only a headache I had then but why I did not mention that the headache was caused by spending the whole night watching movies and I could have gone to do the test if I had pushed myself. I was able to escape the wrath of the lecturer but I had a feeling inside that I had given only one side of the story upon which I obtained favour but I was taunted by the conscience of the lie for a week. The reality is that lies of omission are more toxic than blatant lies since they put an aura of truth in them. You believe that the person is open, you trust them and one day the silence is broken then you find out the holes that they left unsaid so that you could put the false hope. This is fatal in friendship and love. I also had a friend who used to gossip about me, she did not make a confession and she continued smiling at me, by the time I found out the truth, it did not only hurt me but the reality that she directly looked into my eyes and allowed me to think that she is loyal. I will say that lie of omission and outright lie are two sides of the coin, they are both focused on the same goal to deceive. In the case where one of the burglars cracks the door but another one broke the door down leaving it open, however in the two cases you lost your property so there's no difference, you feel the same pain. As time passed, I have come to understand that it might be painful at times to tell the truth but at the long run it will help the person to get less hurt. False omissions seem innocent but they cause distrust, pain and even losing the person forever. Thank you so much for staying this far, hope you had a good read with me, see you again next time 🤗 Noted: All pictures are generated on Meta AI