"Show me your friend and i will tell you who you are" is a saying that has long been in existence. This quote is actually one of my favorite and most used quote, and that's because i am very social, making friends is very easy for me, all i need is just a couple of encounters and we can take it from there. I call these people my friends but then do i trust each and everyone of them at all? hell no, and that's because i know how crazy people can be, and i am not willing to take that risk anymore. I have been victimized in the past and that's enough. I see the quote "show me your friend and i will tell you who you are" as precautionary phrase to help humans make the right choice when it comes to the kinds of friends they relate and walk with. The set of friends we keep define who we really are and how we are seen and perceived by those around us...
I learnt my lessons with friends the hard way, and no way in h**l am i going to allow myself to be victimized again. If it's not working, i steer clear. If i sense any level of toxicity or slyness, i run very faraway. I do all these not out of my pride or arrogance, but to preserve my mental health at all cost. Toxic friends do the most, you just can't help but wonder how you found yourself in their mess in the first place. It has happened in the past, and i am not going to let it happen again. Friends that will be poison you and still give you the antidote are my definition of toxic friends, steer clear from them at all cost. They are out for blood...
Difference in opinions, believes and ideas...
Over the years, i have had friends who share different beliefs, opinions and ideas from mine, and even with that nothing changed between us. Being friends doesn't mean we have to share the same beliefs, opinions and ideas, things don't work that way. If members of a family can have different ideas, beliefs and opinions, then what's stopping friends from having different ideas and beliefs about a particular subject...
My friends and i come a different family, had different upbringing, grew up in different environments and neighborhood, went to different school and even practice different culture. I can't stop being friends with them for being different. If they don't pose as a threat to me and my loved ones, then i have no reason to let go of them. What matters most in any relationship is understanding...
It is normal to have different beliefs, opinions and ideas as friends, as long as it doesn't become toxic or pose as a threat to me, i will be fine with it. I don't have to agree with you, you also don't have to agree with. The fact is that we don't have to agree with each other on everything. At the end of the day, we have ourselves to blame for the result of our actions, which why to me i don't see difference in beliefs, opinions and ideas as anything major. It is normal to me...
In conclusion, as for me i don't have any issue with my friends having a different belief, opinions and ideas, but then if my friends do have issue with mine, then they are very free to use the door. The friendship is not my force but by choice, simple...
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