Ghosting is the best escape mechanism for toxicity, especially if it’s relating to humans and their behaviors. When we talk about ghosting, I for one can’t really say i have ever intentionally ghosted anyone before in my life, not in the past and not even now. Although, i have willingly chose not to talk or keep in contact with some people in my life, because of one reason or another, and most of the time, the reason why i cut contact with these people is not because they’re bad people or have in any way wronged me, it is mostly because i got busy with life or probably change in location and lost of contact. I don’t think i have ever intentionally ghosted anyone…
If letting go of someone because of one reason or the other, especially when that person is becoming toxic is the definition of ghosting, then i’m sorry to say, i think i have ghosted quite a few people in my life. I don’t just go ahead ghosting people. Firstly, I weigh the importance of such person in my life, if the person has in any way be of assistance or support to my life in the past, and at some point they start giving me a toxic vibe, i’d ghost such person without a permanent blocking on all social media platforms, but if on the other hand it’s someone who has always been a pain in the neck or has never really made any impact in my life, and on the long run i feel like you are becoming a threat to me, i will not only ghost such person but also block that person on all social media platforms, that’s like me saying i don’t want to have anything to do with you in this life anymore…
It’s normal to stop talking to someone without ghosting them completely, but the moment such person or people are becoming toxic, then not talking to them won’t be enough, complete ghosting needs to be introduced in this situation…
Have i ever had to ghost anybody before?
Hmmmm, i don’t think so, or should i probably say I can’t remember. I have only stopped talking to some people but never cut them off completely before, and that’s because their offense isn’t deserving of such action… when you ghost someone, you run away from them, you stop keeping contact with them and also cut them off completely. Funny enough when i stop talking to someone now, and years later i meet them again, the fact that i have known them in the past, and at some point there have been one or two deep conversations in the past, i’d forget the past and greet you. Whatever happened in the past is already in the past, i might not want to keep such person close again but then seeing you right there and then after years of break up would definitely prompt me to say hi to you…
In summary, I don’t really have any familiar experience with ghosting. I can’t recall if I’ve ever had to ghost someone before in my life, and that’s because I automatically get tired of communications now adays. So If it’s not money matters then what do we have to talk about….
In conclusion, just as my friend would say; What does two poor man have to discuss?, lol. Regardless of everything, when you sense toxicity or threat in any relationship you are in, run like flash and that too with the speed of light…
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