Friendship is supposed to be one of the most important relationships that happens to humans. It should be cherished and valued. Growing up, I was told friendship is a sacred thing because one shares a deep connection with a person one calls a friend. A friend is supposed to be a sister or brother that are not blood related, yet so close and shares a strong bond. Many friends look real initially but later turn out to be worst nightmares. A wise man once told me to pick my friends like beans, to make sure I remove the stones patiently so that I don't eat my beans with stones. Eating my beans with stones could be dangerous to my health, and I'm glad I heeded the advice, even though I fell victim to a wrong friend before I learnt my lesson and decided to keep the advice dear to my heart.
I am very lenient because I was taught to always do good to everyone I come in contact with on my journey in life. Irrespective of tribe or culture, it's always my joy to put a smile on someone's face. Going the extra mile for someone I call my friend isn't a big deal for me. Be honest, I believe that as my friend, I should be able to do for you what others can't do. That's how friendship should be but in this generation, everything has been turned upside down.
I once had a friend who was more or less like a sister to me. I respected and loved her so much and I expected her to reciprocate. Although she showed it whenever I'm with her, that she cares, she never did. She is always smiling, standing up for me like no other but she had another agenda. I tried to pinpoint what she actually envied about me but I couldn't phantom it. I don't wear designer bags, shoes, or expensive hair. I don't even have a wig but she does wear things like that. She does get enough money than I do. She buys things I don't buy, and I never envied her, but she does. How I got to know got me scared and I feared humans. She does talk behind me to everyone she sees me talking to. She always finds a way to befriend everyone I talk to, trying to find favor in ways that I don't understand.
The mature ones amongst them confronted me and made me see reasons to avoid her, but I always love giving people the benefit of the doubt. Then came a time when she needed financial assistance. I went an extra mile to get the money for her just because she is my friend, and I made her realize that I borrowed it, which means she will have to refund me when she gets it. She promised two months, but it turned into four months. I asked her about it and she gave several excuses. Six months after I got pissed off and had to refund the money to the person who lent me. It was later that I got to know that she intentionally didn't give me the money back.
That broke my heart, she did that despite knowing I borrowed the money on her behalf. I had no choice but to keep my distance from her. She noticed the distance, and she doesn't care, that's when I knew she was the wrong choice. That was how I walked out of the friendship, and I didn't regret it because she didn't deserve my friendship, love, and sacrifices.
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