I have heard of a lot of stories where a lady, mostly one who has been infected with the human immunodeficiency virus (HIV), seeks out men to transmit this virus.
I mostly find it sickening and think to myself that only a mentally disturbed individual or a malicious individual can do such a thing. A person having a working conscience cannot do such a thing. Anyone who can do this is already dead inside or must have sold their soul.
I understand that things like this could be traumatising. What I don't understand is that someone who has faced or is facing such a situation would like to put another human in the same situation. These individuals, in my opinion, should try as much as possible to see that others don't get into the same situation as they did. You will hear of situations where a person tries to help others out of trauma or how to avoid certain situations because they have had their own experience with the situation, and because of their experience, they refuse to see another person having the same experience.
I don't think you believe that having to pass your pain to another can be a way of recovery for a normal person; only a sick person will believe that and should seek help from a shrink. The world is already difficult and shouldn't be made worse by the same humans who made the world difficult.
There is no excuse for inflicting pain on another individual, and anyone who intentionally inflicts pain on another should be held accountable for their action and should be punished for it.
It is biblical that one should forgive and forgive, but it is also true that no sin goes without punishment; such a person, while being forgiven, should serve the punishment that rectitude requires for their action. It is not right for individuals to cause pain to people close to them as a result of the pain they must have faced in the past event. Such a person should be taught that their action is wicked and should be punished, and should also understand the grievance of what they have done.
Everyone passes through one pain or another at some point in time, so let's imagine everyone tries to pass this pain forward or makes everyone around them feel this pain. Such a situation will be very catastrophic and a danger to society. Humans are supposed to make life easier for one another. They are meant to understand that what goes around surely comes around. It is only expected, in my opinion, that good things should be passed further and not hurtful and wicked things. A person who has received a good deed from a kind person could pass it forward, but it is wrong to pass a bad and hurtful act to the next person.
You can only try to help yourself get healed from such pain rather than passing it forward, as it will only steal your peace and increase your trauma. Even a mentally ill person should not be left unpunished for causing pain to another, as this can be used as an excuse to do evil.
Thank you for reading. My name is @rishagamo, and this is my response to the Hive Learners weekly Featured Content Week 185 Episode 01: “CIRCLE OF PAIN”.