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Image Growing up was fun, and there were so many things Mum told me to do, and I used to feel bad at times; I would feel she doesn't care about me. It was. It was very difficult to differentiate between punishment with love because I used to feel Mum was so extreme with me.
If my younger siblings were not fine,, she would tell me to make sure that they get whatever they needed at the expense of mine. I mean, I was seven when Mum actually started teaching me how to be selfless. There were foods I skipped so that it could be enough for my younger ones. There were times I would stay back from some gathering because I wanted my younger siblings to go there, and at that point I would always frown at my mum, thinking she did not care about me.
Everything started making sense when my senior sister got married, and I did not have any other choice than to be the mother of the house. She left the house I took over from her. I started doing selfless things effortlessly to a point everyone would always tell me that I was doing too much, but I did not feel that way. I just saw myself having a big heart for people and making sure that they are fine even when I am not.
In the last two years I lost my mum, and I became the mother to my siblings and a wife to my dad so that if they do not see me,they will look for me. I have to take care of my dad. I need to be strong for him, especially when he cries. I don't need to cry so that the situation will not get worse. I forsook everything to stay with Dad so that he will be strong.
When I went for a compulsory service that is done in my country, I was made the assistant coordinator of all the youths in my zone, and selflessness began in full. My head was a male, so I was always seen as a mother, and it will interest you to know I was leading those who were older than me in age and in stature. They saw me as their mother, and I was able to do this because I learned it right from when I was a child. I let go of so many things; there were times they rebelled against me, but I saw them beyond what they were doing. I saw them as my children who do not know what they are doing.
I forgave people who hurt me, and I needed to be there for them. In my journey as a mother to the youths, I have learned that no matter how hard a heart is, it can be melted by care. If you can care for someone, that person will have no choice but to listen to you.
Thank you to my mum, who instilled in me the value of selflessness.
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