Life is a roller coster ride with many ups and down. A person should need to keep focus rather than getting distracted with various life situation and challenges. While the good times in life are alwsys enjoyable. There are chances that the bad times in life may put a person under immense pressure. But I belive, "When life throws you lemons, make lemonade" But what "appears so easy on paper, is not so easy in practical". Keeping a positive frame of mind in difficult times is tough. But again, if you are focussed on your goal, you may crack the toughest.
The lemonade proverb, is about making the best of misfortune by transforming challenges, represented by sour lemons, into something pleasant and desirable, like sweet lemonade. The core idea is to actively transform negative situations into positive ones through thoughtful planning and action. Instead of ignoring or withdrawing from a negative experience, take time to understand and analyze it.
When I find myself in neck deep trouble, the first thing I do is to stay calm and avoid listening to people "words". There are chances that other people be it neighbors, relatives or friends may try to pull you down. They may try to make the situation more worse for us. In the mean and selfish world, a true well-being wishers is rare. The best thing I generally do is to just listen but never follow their words. When I took up the hard decision of shifting to my village, nobody was ready to believe. Especially my relatives whose first reaction was ;
you can't do it !
And
you're not meant for it
They might be too quick to judge my abilities. But somewhere they are right too. A person who is born and bought up in upscale city, lived to capital city, worked in multiple corporates and occasionally been to village, in all these years, has turned up to stay the rest of life in a remote village with minimum basic facilities. It is a strange case, and people were quick to underestimate me. Listening to their words, I felt demotivated. As far I know, I never stayed at my village even for an entire week. I visited the place few times in year only for 2-3 day. But now I was there to live my rest of the life. The situation of my parent has pulled me up there.
It was the urgency that brought me to the situation. Shifting and adapting to the new environment is not easy. Everyone was giving me a awkward eye. They assumed me as an extra burden for them as I would be dependent on them for everything. But, I know one thing thay my Dad needs me. And that mere thought give me enough motivation to survive, in those difficult situation. I find myself dwelling with multiple things, survival, adapting and caring my aged parents. Avoiding listening to others was the first thing I did. And then, planned small and manageable steps to address the challenges. Somewhere, inside I had the firm belive that I can do it for me and for my parent. I avoided depending upon others and manage everything of my own. Now it has been 7 long years. I spent all days very calmly. No rush, no mess. I just did of my own. What could be a better lemonade than listening some nice words from those who called me incapable in my early days?
Life does test our attitude occasionally, we just need to stay calm and positive. This is my response to "topic 2" of weekend-engagement by @galenkp for this week.
In good faith - Peace!!
