Don’t kill me, you this child, don’t kill me! And at some point, it turns to don’t kill yourself! This is the situation with raising a child.
An expert in the real estate industry came out to talk about how his mum committed suicide because of emotional toxicity from her partner, his dad. He said, “20 months ago, my mum committed suicide”. He knew he was in a toxic situation right from a very young age, but he didn’t see it at anything bad, until he left home. Then, he realized that no human deserves to live like that and planned for his mum’s exit from the marriage. Her visa was ready, it was almost time for her to leave, but two months to her travel, she committed suicide.
Then, he said a lot of things, with one that stood out for me. He said, because of my mum’s experience, I have trained myself, not just to become a good person, but also to be the best husband there is, and the best role model to my children.
Even though I was sad listening to him, I realized that not everyone raised in toxicity ends up being toxic, however, maybe a reasonable percent of people does, but there are other factors that determine how a child turns out with ***parenting skill topping the list***.
There was a very cute video of a 2-year-old boy welcoming his girl to school after a holiday. For the gentleman that he is, he stretched out his hand to help the girl climb up, hugged her, collected her bag, and led her into the classroom with their teachers watching. So sweet, yeah? That is how important parenting can shape the attitude of a child.
I checked through the comments section, and it was filled with commendations for the boy’s father. They said, “the boy had seen his father done that to his mum multiple times and just adopted it”. That is parenting.
Growing up, children take up a lot of traits from their parents, which will eventually shape their attitude, and that’s why they say, parents should be careful of what they say or do in the presence of their children.
Though, there are other factors that shape how a child eventually turns out, good or bad, parenting tops the list.
The boy who is learning kindness, respect and love from his parents have a higher possibility of turning out good provided he learnt contentment, and other innate traits in demonstration, else, ***the environment*** is there to reshape such a child into a monster that the parents may end up not knowing. There, is the impact of ***peer pressure*** on a child.
The real estate mogul that learnt toxicity from his dad but trained himself to be the best human learnt that from the environment. The exposure he later got made him realize that toxicity is not the way to live, but a situation to escape from, and that’s why it hurts him bitterly that he could not save his mum when he eventually had the means to.
A child turning out good or bad, is a complex interaction between parenting, and the environment. However, parenting tops the list, and that’s why at a tender age, when we take risks that are beyond us, our parents would say, “Don’t kill me, you this child”. But the moment the child is grown, and exposed, it turns to “don’t kill yourself, you this child!”
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