It all started with love. Two love birds that the community envied their love so much. Their wedding wasn’t so much the talk of the town because they were two quiet people who had chosen a quiet life and rather enjoy their marriage.
Based on the society’s view, they were not on the same level. Just because the woman’s family was wealthier, but they were in love and that was what mattered the most.
They got married on a low and moved to a distance very far from both families. They wanted to prevent the issue of family intervention in their home, that was why they relocated to another state far from both families.
Their life was going fine and smoothly, until the younger brother of the man got a job in the same state and reached out for a permission to stay with them for some time until he got his first salary and get an apartment.
The couple, sceptical at first because they were used to having just them and their two kids around decided to “just allow” him since it was going to last for just a month. And then, it started.
It began with the brother having issues with his brother’s wife not cooking as much as their mum did for their father. He was raised with eating fresh meals every morning, and his brother’s wife wasn’t giving him what he wanted.
His brother’s wife wouldn’t wash his cloth too and wouldn’t do clean many times a day, and he had issues with that. And as if that was not enough, he “influenced” his brother to start asking his wife to do some things that she normally wouldn’t do. According to the husband, it wasn’t going to be for a very long time since the brother-in-law wouldn’t be staying for long.
It was going to be a little matter, but the brother-in-law escalated the matter to his mum, and that was when the trouble got fully blown. She decided that she had missed his son and grandchildren and wanted to go and spend some time with them.
I don’t know what type of mindset she had before going, but all we know is that by the time she returned to the village, her son’s marriage had scattered.
We later realized that the woman was almost running mad from the frustrations from her mother-in-law and the pressure to be the “perfect wife” for the family, and to make matters worse, her husband played a vital role in making sure that he protected his extended family over his immediate family.
The woman on the other hand, endured all forms of humiliation that started affecting her life, but for the sake of her children, she tried to make the marriage work by all means. Thank God for her family, who came to hijack her making sure she went through thorough therapy to help her regain herself.
Truly, the effect of divorce on the kids is a lot, however, I think it is going to be worse if they grow up in a toxic home. They tend to see toxicity as a normal and find a way to pass it on just like the brother-in-law that came into this home to scatter the beautiful home his brother had before his arrival.
So, for the partner that wants the divorce, the mental health of that person matters a lot, however, the positive effect of choosing divorce over enduring for the sake of the kids will affect the life of both the partner seeking the divorce and the children.
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