Ghost of the Past

The pain still lingers, though years have passed Unclear how long this ache will last The wound I thought had sealed and closed Returns to haunt... an eternal ghost
In a world that renders me powerless I wake each day, worried and restless What if the ghost of the past comes back Do I let it be, or do I attack?
What if this trauma transforms me Into someone I swore I'd never be? What if I become a ghost to someone else What kind of pain would we both delve?
They say forgive, and then forget But if I forget, I might regret So I’ll take it as a lesson, not a chain Being hurt is never a reason to cause pain
@tegoshei

At some point in our lives, we experience hurt. Although the severity and effect of this pain vary from person to person, we can't deny anyone's feelings. The problem is that some people pass on the pain they feel to someone else.

Will these people be accountable for passing on the pain? Yes! The fact that they were hurt in the past doesn't erase the responsibility they have for hurting others. Of course, it's understandable where their behavior came from, but that doesn't excuse them for hurting others.
I often watch True Crime documentaries because I'm interested in the psychology behind the criminals' behaviors. A lot of them had traumatic experiences in the past. Because of those, they seek a way to survive or to feel in control of something.
They may find it difficult to process their emotions because they grew up in an environment where they didn't have such an opportunity. In response, they seek control and power, which often leads them to hurt others.

Understanding them is a good start, but tolerating their actions is a different issue.
Now, could such acts be forgiven?
It depends on the severity of the act. I believe the act of forgiveness is a complex process. I think people forgive not because they want to forgive the person who has wronged them, but instead, they want to free themselves from such a burden. It may be a kind of closure.
Pain doesn't justify causing pain. I can't speak for everyone, but like all people, I have experienced pain, and I usually choose to understand, though mostly, I stay away from the source of pain. I mean... why stay, right?

Personally, I find forgiving easy... but forgetting is another story. When you crumple a paper, it won't go back the same way it used to be... just like trust.

We may have forgiven people in our lives, but it's almost impossible to forget the pain, the trauma or the experience. So, the relationship won't be as close as it used to be. There'll be a gap, because people, as we are, are scared to experience the same pain again.
It may be a difficult thing to do, but I hope people choose to be kind regardless of their past experiences.
Thanks for reading, and see you around! (^^,)/